My turn to rant a bit. I have noticed over this past year something that really bothers me about chat. I hear members complain that it is not the supportive environment it used to be, and in many ways I have to agree. Chat has become more a place of social networking like facebook or myspace, or even MSN. Members gather there to chat and visit amongst themselves. I really have no problem with that. We all enjoy having a place to gather and chit chat about various topics. Where my disappointment or frustration comes in, is when a member enters with an issue that may be a bit uncomfortable for some. The description does state that main chat is for lighthearted chat, but it also says that should someone come in with a serious problem they are not to be turned away. So often I see the members in Main chat tell them to take it to triggers. Great. That is the room to go to avoid triggering others. The problem I see is that no one follows them. What good does it do to need help if you are told to go somewhere else and no one is there? As an experiment I have come in several times and gone into the triggers room. I wanted to see if anyone would acknowledge that perhaps I was struggling. On several occasions I sat there alone for more than 30 minutes and not once was I checked on. I have seen it happen to other members as well. Would it be so difficult for someone to go into the room and ask if the member was okay or needed to talk? If you are not in the place emotionally to deal with a triggering topic, you could still acknowledge them and let them know you aren't in a good place. Then go back into Main Chat or Spare Room and ask if anyone feels they can speak with whoever is in Triggers. If you don't want to leave your buddies in whatever room you are in, at least PM the person in crisis. Please don't just ignore them. The way it should be handled when you ask them to move to triggers is to do so and then ask if anyone is up to going in, or ask the member themselves if they will change rooms with you. At least they are aware that someone is concerned about them and does care. They may decline your help, but again, they know someone cared enough to ask. I could go on forever, but none of you want to read a novel on this topic. All I am asking is to be supportive of one another. It may mean you have to sacrifice a little of your time, but you may just save a life. At the very least you will make someones day a little less painful.