I am a survivor of childhood sexual, physical, emotional and verbal abuse. For a long time I have thought that my low self esteem was a natural product of my own failures, but I've come to realize that my self image was influenced by what happened to me and now I see that I'm in this self destructive cycle that I can't seem to escape from. I don't want to blame everything wrong that I've done on what happened to me, but it's a really easy trap to fall into. I think about it a lot, maybe even too much. I sometimes feel like I obsess over it. I want to forget about it but I also feel like it's holding me back. I have tried a therapist already using mostly CBT and it didn't go well, however I read this book and I'm fascinated with the IFS approach.