College

[Confuzzled]

I have a few issues but, right now, i just need some advise with college.

I really don't think I can do it anymore nd I hate going in there. I just don't feel happy. Is there anything that can be done to make it alright? I'm not talking methods for dealing with it, I've tried that since my first day of school, I need a way of not having to go to college again. Please, it's not about being bullied, the lessons, I just don't think it's for me and I need to know how I can finally retire from school.

Thanks.

 

[Confuzzled]

If you've got a lot of illnesses and mental problems and depression, do you get some sort of benifits given to you in the future? If I dropped out of college now, due to anxiety and nothing else, would the government let me get away with having a job or something?

Please, I need some advice before I go to bed tonight. Thanks.

 

[Hazel]

Hi Confuzzled and welcome to SF, sorry you are finding college so unbearable, have you tried to talk to your parents about this?
Have you reached the age when you can legally finish your education?
Do you know why you have this problem? sorry for all the questions..

Take care Hazel x

 

[Hazel]

If you've got a lot of illnesses and mental problems and depression

Do you have these problems? what country do you live in, just asking in regard to benefits.

 

[Confuzzled]

Hi Confuzzled and welcome to SF, sorry you are finding college so unbearable, have you tried to talk to your parents about this?

I have tried talking to my parents. They say I can't stop going. My mum says I can't give up so easily... but I don't, I've been putting up with school for years. I'm not giving up, I'm at the end of my tether. I've done my bit of the thing that I hate, (they said it would get easier) and now I just want to rest. Take a year out or whatever.

Have you reached the age when you can legally finish your education?

Yep, I'm 16 and I think college is optional.

Do you know why you have this problem?

I've always had this problem. Just panicky, I don't like being around the people. I prefer my own company, I don't like the way you can't instantly leave if you want. I don't like the way you have to talk back if spoken to.

Do you have these problems? what country do you live in, just asking in regard to benefits.

I have some form of agrophobia and I can't socialise. I've also got some sort of depression which hopefully I'll be permitted medication for soon. I live in England.

 

[Hazel]

Sounds to me like you do need some sort of evaluation/treatment, if this happened then perhaps changes to the way you are educated could be considered.
Guess you have already been to the doc

I'll be permitted medication for soon

Any reason why you were denied treatment, be it meds or therapy?

 

[Confuzzled]

Any reason why you were denied treatment, be it meds or therapy?

Age I think. Now that I'm old enough, the phychologist says I could start thinking about medication. She said I might have to see someone and be asked questions to see if I'm deemed 'worthy' of anti depressants.

I suppose my mum hindered the process before hand as well. She used to be a nurse and probably knows of the side effects and such. Is it true you're also open to a relapse as well?

 

[the other guy]

You know like Hazel said, there are counselors at the college and they will try to help. I would go and talk to a counselor before u actally drop out. And if u have dropped out recently they will let u back in and try to help with problems.

 

[Confuzzled]

You know like Hazel said, there are counselors at the college and they will try to help. I would go and talk to a counselor before u actally drop out. And if u have dropped out recently they will let u back in and try to help with problems.

It's just I hate one on one situations. I have a nervous laugh and it can be really embarassing. The other day my therapist told me about some boy that got severely injured and I burst out laughing. I certainly didn't find anything funny, and I told her so, but you could tell she tried to turn it into a joke afterwards.

I also don't want to be in the college more than I should. I also don't want the feeling of failure, so like my only chance to retire from school blown, because I couldn't get a good case across in the discussion with this school counselor. I couldn't go back in the classroom thinking 'If only I didn't mess up that talk, I wouldn't have to be doing this'.

I haven't dropped out, no, and I can't see a way of it happening. I could never convince my parents, yet I think it would be the best thing.:sad:

 

[Confuzzled]

:sad: I didn't want to go into college today after lunch, so I hid in my house. My mum then heard me so I had to call that I hadn't gone in. She seemed pretty pissed off so I went in my room just depressed. I then went in my closet for ages and sat there. It felt like there was a dark shadow swirling around in there, I wanted it to kill me. I heard my dad was home and when he came up he wanted me to tell him what it's all about. He said it was the anorexia getting worse again, but it wasn't that at all so I just hid in my bed. He then started saying that I'm practically a man and that I need to stop being like a 4 year old. At this point I started breathing really hard non-stop and I thought I'd never be able to stop at one point. My dad had to slap me so that I'd stop and it worked but then I got a nose bleed.

I came up here, feeling very low and then my dad came up. I got rid of this page, and he said I can have the day off tommorow and that I should tell him what's wrong. He said it was from personal experience.

Both my parents are really nice people amd I don't want to ruin them. I'm crying a lot at the mo.:sad:

 

[TheBLA]

Sorry you feel so bad, I also don't like college, I just go there for classes. No clubs, no friends, no nothing. I am the biggest loser there.

Its not that college is bad, its just me thats the problem, I'm too much of a pathetic loser to enjoy it. In fact, I even dislike hearing that word or seeing it, college, dislike hearing that word. :sad:
I may be 19 but I act very immature and childish as well, you aren't alone in your thoughts/situation. :smile:

 

[eva]

College has become unbearable for me, and caused my depression to go deeper, but I NEED to be there, for insurance reasons, if I am not listed as a full time student, I can no longer be on my parents medical/health insurance and as you know, going through depression and appt. after appt. I depend on my insurance at the moment. I dont know, I kind of just try to sit through my classes and hang on till it's done, come home and sleep. Next semester I am taking courses that really sound interesting so maybe I wil ldo better.

Seriously though, I spoke to my therapist and she said if you speak to the college about what you're going through especially anxiety and depression, they are VERY considerate and understanding because so many students go through this. I did that and it has made SOME things so, so much easier on me school wise.

Best of luck to you whether you decide to go back or not.

 

[Confuzzled]

Thanks a lot for all your support guys.

There's been a bit of progress actually. First, I've been able to drop my course after persuading my Dad (a minor miracle), and now my tutor is looking for a different, smaller class to put me in. Not the complete dropping out that I'd hoped for, but it's and improvment nevertheless, and should help. I've also been given the week off.

And I've also been permitted to have anti depressants, and will start Monday.

Maybe things will start to pick up...

Thanks again for being there, all of you.

 

[TheBLA]

Best of luck to you, looks like things will be getting better for you now.