My elderly father is now in a seniors’ home. He is selling his apartment suite. It is up to my sister and me to get it on the market with an agent and get the place ready to be shown to prospective buyers - the packing up, cleaning out, making it look presentable. My father’s suite is in the building where I work at the Concierge/Security Desk. I know the rules of the building really well because I have to ensure that residents follow them when I’m on duty. It’s better if people who work there follow the rules themselves, right? At least that’s what I would have thought. My sis, her husband and I were there on Saturday. We were moving things out and taking tons of stuff to the huge back of building rubbish dumpsters. My brother-in-law was breaking half the rules for moving items from dad's suite to the bins. I asked him to please follow the rules. He said, “I don’t give a goddamn about the rules, and I won’t it argue with you.” I told him he was being insensitive because I still had to work there. No comment from him. No apology. Nothing. And the next day he acted as if he didn’t say or do anything wrong and that we were just happy old pals. The general attitude toward me seems to be that my family can say and do whatever they please to me, and then once it’s done, it’s “in the past,” so “Don’t dwell on the past, it’s over and done.” To me, that’s a license for abusive behavior. It means that they can say or do anything, and the minute it’s over, it’s no good looking back and asking for an apology or an explanation. Or am I wrong? Is it just me? And why do so many people do this sort of thing to me? I feel so confused. It's crazy-making. I think they’re messing with my mind! But maybe they’re not. Maybe I’m just wrong and expect too much or I'm just being unreasonable. :unsure: I’d really appreciate comments about this, please.