Hey everyone I really need some perspectives on my current situation with my bf because it is very upsetting and I just don't know what to do or think about it or anything. Basically we had been going out for a few months and things seemed pretty ok as far as I could tell, then a few weeks ago I didn't hear from him in ANY form for a whole week (had NEVER happened since we first started going out). I tried very hard not to be worried and to tell myself that it was probably just that he was busy (he is VERY busy a lot of the time) but it turns out I had good reason to be worried because when I finally did talk to him again he said he wasn't sure if he had feelings for me anymore. He basically said he didn't miss me and that he was feeling like maybe we weren't meant to be together. The thing I am confused about is that he claims that it is not from anything I did it is just how he feels and he doesn't know why. Does this seem believable? Has this EVER happened to anyone else out there, ever? I am directing that last question much more at women than at men because I know women are much more likely to do this kind of thing than men most of the time. I am feeling so upset and confused about this situation because I am missing the intimacy part of it so much especially I really feel like I need someone for that kind of connection right now and I feel so completely abandoned by him since like I said this just came out of the blue like 1 week we were close together and things were good like I said, then the next week, nothing?! It just feels so hurtful, devastating, upsetting and overwhelming to say the least. The other thing besides that is I am not sure whether I should wait to see whether his feelings change or not because he seems pretty uncertain about whether he's even making the right decision and I feel like I have said and done EVERYTHING I could think of to try to get him to give us a chance and all but I don't feel like it is being met with an equal effort. He seems to have quite a high level of fear when it comes to things and he admitted that he has a "fear of commitment" but the thing with that is I am NOT a demanding gf like that at all I never asked him any kind of "where is this going?" kinds of questions at all I am very laid back about that kind of thing overall. The most important thing to me in a lot of ways is that the physical part is good and by that I don't just mean looks I mean it more generally...rather not go into details and all but I'm sure you most likely know what I'm meaning. Anyway, if you were in my place (again I am meaning this question MUCH more to women than men) would you consider it better to just "wait" for the guy who may or may not change his mind, or would you consider that to be an unwise, unhealthy and/or desperate decision to make in this situation? I don't feel like I'm "desperate" or anything I just want to have faith and not give up on something esp. if it DOES have a chance of working out which it seems it might.