Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Rosalie, Jun 9, 2009.

  1. Rosalie

    Rosalie Member

    So I am 18, Female, and quite possibly gay. I need advise

    Why I Am
    -I fantacize about women (especially while im having sex with my bf)
    -I find man and woman porn DISGUSTING

    Why I Might Not Be
    -I am bipolar and have borderline personality disorder so it might just be caused by that or the normal confusion of adolecence
    -I might just e uncomfortable with men because of past negative experiences

    I have always had boyfriends but now I don't know

    help please
  2. snowraven

    snowraven Well-Known Member

    Sounds to me like you are going through the perfectly healthy process of exploring your own sexuality. The choices you make are yours and yours alone. You must follow the path that you find best for you. Just be yourself and remember there is no rush and always time to reevaluate how you feel. Best wishes.
  3. Rosalie

    Rosalie Member

    I know. and I'm about to go to college in the fall so this is a good time to "experiment" but I am a huge control freak so I hate not knowing. I am fairly certain that I am gay :sad:. And I am NOT NOT sad because I dislike gay people (I am actually on the board of the GLBT club at my school and went to a rally) it's just that it would make my life harder (marriage, rights et).
  4. cult logic

    cult logic Staff Alumni

    Well I would say have sex with a girl and see what you think of it.

    I'm pretty confused too, and my plan to figure it out is to have sex with both a girl and a guy to figure it out.

    Maybe you're bi?
  5. Right U R Ken

    Right U R Ken Well-Known Member

    This isn't exactly fair to your boyfriend now is it? You mentioned past negative experiences with men. This needs to be looked into big time. With a professional therapist and include your boyfriend in the process. It's the right thing to do.