short story is, I was 15-16 and he was 16-18 (1 year two month relationship) he was physically sexually emotionally and verbally abusive towards me from the beginning of the relationship, aside from sexual that came two months in. After a break in which I made a close emotional connection with another lad. (the break was two weeks) Anyway, that relationship ended and two weeks after it did he came to see me and raped me one last time, after that I got into a relationship with his then best friend. Anyway when I joined the college which he attended he made my life hell, going around the college bragging about raping and abusing me. His friends and the college took his side. and I had to quit college. Blah blah blah. Fast forward to this year (age 20) I finally managed to forgive him, and this was the breaking point for my life, I was finally able to continue and move onwards and upwards an come to university with no baggage. this was a few months ago, between roughly may - july. Yesterday he made contact with me. Him "Boo..." Me "Who is this.." - "Oh wait I know who it is.." Him "Just making sure uni is going ok for you. You wont hear from me again." Me "Uni is going amazingly, got a boyfriend and life is good. Hope is all good for you." As I had forgiven him I decided to reply to that last text. Him "Its not. That should make you happy! Be careful. I may be scary but I mean well. Just be careful ok? " He was very manipulative through the relationship so this text has me concerned, his sister attends the same university as I do, and is studying on the campus I live opposite. And there is a high possibility if she finds out I'm at university her family may find out and thus make my life hell. As my ex is doing nothing with his life and is apparently falling deep into depression, this is of course my fault (in their eyes) and if I'm doing well they wont be happy. They see what their son did to me as my own fault. Which maybe it was maybe it wasn't I don't know anymore.