Convince me not to do it

Discussion in 'Suicidal Thoughts and Feelings' started by MaidenFan, Aug 16, 2008.

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  1. MaidenFan

    MaidenFan Member

    Here are all the reasons why I'm going to kill myself tonight:
    1) I'm 22 years old, and I'm still a virgin. Never had a gf, never even kissed a girl.
    2) I'm dead broke and living with my parents.
    3) I've dropped out of college and while I sit here looking at my friends and relatives finishing up school and starting their careers, I can't conceive a practical way I'll ever finish.
    4) I've never been able to hold down a job for more than 3 months, and haven't worked in over 2 years.
    5) I'm addicted to drugs, and they are the only source of happiness in my life right now.
    6) I have absolutley nothing to look forward to in the near future. It's hard for me to even get out of bed in the mornings.
    7) I'm so ridiculously lazy that I'd rather die than put in the effort to turn my life around.

    Now convince me not to do it. If I don't get a decent argument in about the next 12 hours I'll be dead.

  2. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    We're not doing this. You are not going to put the responsibility on the members here to save your life. This has to be your decision, your effort and whilst we are happy to support you whilst you do this we are not responsible for your life or death.
  3. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    why would i convince you not to do it?
    your asking for us to convince you, so you obviously dont want to or you wouldnt have bothered.
    as for your argument for doing it well....
    1) So what your a virgin, trust me sometimes i wish i was, women are generally hassle, relationships confuse things and to kill yourself over being a virgin is to be honest ridiculous!
    2) Your living with your parents! i wish i had the luxury, im 21 and having to pay bills all the time, i can almost guarantee you got more money than me!
    i have to pay rent, gas, water, electric, tv license, internet bills, phone bills, food bills, general maintenance bills, clothes, pet food and more! i dont have enough money to socialise!
    3) You dont need qualifications, just a motivation, i dont have a single qualification yet i among the top few in my field of expertise in the UK and have worked with many of the best, all by motivating myself and being dedicated.
    4) what you enjoy and put up with shit you get, this is real life!
    5) It was your choice to take drugs, now its up to you if you want to get off them, either way its no reason for suicide!
    6) Again welcome to the real world!
    7) well thats your choice, how can you complain when you dont even try, make a conscious effort, it pays of even if you hate every minute of doing it!
    it seems your position is of your own making, to commit suicide for those reasons is if anything offensive because their are many people with serious problems beyond their control!
  4. MaidenFan

    MaidenFan Member

    So what you're saying is, I've dug myself into a hole and it's my responsibility to get myself out?

    I wish I was motivated enough to do that.
  5. MaidenFan

    MaidenFan Member

    Maybe you're right, I'm a terrible person after all.

    Don't mean to blackmail anyone, I'm just looking for a reason to live, and I can't find it.

    The way I see it there's only two ways my life can turn out, either I kill myself, or I leach off my parents till they get fed up and kick me out at which point I'll be homeless. I probably wouldn't be able to make it on the street though, so I guess it's all the same.

    I'm a vile disgusting specimen that's only taking up space and hurting the people around me. I deserve to die.
  6. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    im not saying your a terrible person, but to put your life in the hands of members of the suicide forum is in no way fair! you need to get yourself motivated, random people on a forum are not the people to do that, you need to motivate yourself, as i say getting a hobby is a good idea, i pretty much live for falconry and ferreting, it gets me up on those days which like you say you just dont want to get out of bed, also parents are for leeching untill you can support yourself, thats parents and children for ya, if ever i stumble i can always fall on my mother! stop moaning and actively make your life better, as i say much of your situation was created by yourself so you can get out of it.
  7. MaidenFan

    MaidenFan Member

    Ya you're right. I'm sorry for fucking up the etiquette of the forum. I'm not gonna kill myself, it was just one of those terrible emotional moments. Again, I'm sorry if I offended you guys. I should be alright for now.
  8. bhawk

    bhawk Well-Known Member

    right put a list on here of things you've done that you enjoy or what you'd like to try.
  9. touglytobeloved

    touglytobeloved Well-Known Member

    I dont think he put responsibility on someone else. He clearly said that he has nothing to live for, and he has made his decision to die. He is just searching for other aspects to his situation, and someone to convince him or to show him a reason to live for.
  10. Abacus21

    Abacus21 Staff Alumni

    Have you considered getting help for your drug addiction / mental state at the moment?
  11. Stranger1

    Stranger1 Forum Buddy & Antiquities Friend

    My parents kicked me out when I was seventeen. They took my car and sold it. Then they kept the money! I had a good job for a seventeen year old drop out. I was working at a steel yard making $11.65 an hour back in the seventies. As soon as I turned 18 I joined the Marines. Did my time with them and then I got out and ended up spunging places to live, also back to living on the streets. It took me until I was in my middle twentys before I quit drugs. You need to think positive and get a job as soon as you can. It will get you out of the house, get some seperate time from your family. There are options out there. You need to decide what you want, and go for it. Good Luck...
  12. effervescentpsyche

    effervescentpsyche Well-Known Member

    I feel like dying everyday...I look for a reason to live. I just think about my parents mostly...If you care about them...think about yourself dead...and think about what your mother and father's reaction is going to be when they see you...when they find out...they obviously love you otherwise they would have kicked you out.

    Life sucks...and I wish that tomorrow would bring something better...but then it just kicks me in the butt again and knocks me down. I feel cursed, but for some reason I just have a strand of hope. You must have some hope too otherwise you wouldn't be here.
  13. patacake

    patacake Well-Known Member

    ok hun u need help and support , for ur addiction , conuselling may help too , for motvation the members here can help but we can only help u to help urself hun , i know it seems unlikely at the moment but anything is possible , believe me , u can turn this around , ur not a bad person and the fact u want convincing to stay means there is still hope , come on get stuck in , dont go anywhere without a huge fight .

    im here if u need a friend , pm or chat room , or msn ,

    jo x take care :hug:
  14. Dave_N

    Dave_N Guest

    Hi Maidenfan. I'm 27 and still a virgin and I still live with my parents. It's not that bad. I do work and I contribute to my family as much as I can so I don't leech off my parents. It sounds to me that you need some motivation more than anything. Death is not the answer. The first thing you have to do is give up the drugs. The next thing is get a job. You're only 22 and have many good years left ahead of you. You just have to take back your life. Life is full of challenges and struggles, but also happiness. Don't give up. :hug:
  15. effervescentpsyche

    effervescentpsyche Well-Known Member

    hope maiden is still around.
  16. saeyoon Chung

    saeyoon Chung Well-Known Member

    I'm 23 I fall into almost all categories there.. except the drugs and 'living with parents' part (I live alone& the savings will run out soon) and.. I'm probably uglier than you.

    #3 part(college) is killing me every day too.. but there's a way.. go to adult school or something. Start from the bottom if you have to.(like me)

    Figure out a way to turn #7(lack of willpower) around and you'll be back on track in no time.

    Take comfort in the fact that there's a 'bigger' loser like me out there.
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