Me and my boyfriend of 3.5 years split up three weeks ago. We have been in a long distance relationship for a little while and wanted this resolved, he wanted me to move down south to be with him but my problem was that he works in a bar, is constantly into his bank overdraft and isn't in a stable position financially to support me whilst I look for a new job down there. I live further up north and have a stable well-paid job, the bar that he works in have made it quite clear that it's possible for him to get a transfer up here to the north but for whatever reason, he's always said he would never move up here.
Basically we split up because of money issues. It wasn't a nasty break up, there were tears on both sides, the love was and is still there. We left things on him giving me a kiss goodbye and saying he would try to call me that night. Three weeks have passed and I've not heard a word from him - why is this?
I've sent him an e-mail or two (he hasn't had a phone for the past three months cos he can't afford the bill) but no response. I know he's been online a couple of times in the past three weeks cos he's updated his Facebook status. I'm going crazy, I feel like I need to talk to him cos I still love him and miss him - I've considered just packing my bag, forgetting about work and make the move down south because money doesn't buy you happiness.
I've gone out with my friends etc to try and take my mind off things but every day I still find myself thinking about him and beating myself up about things cos I feel like I've done something wrong with him not contacting me, even though I know I've done nothing wrong. I feel like I'm being punished.
How do I cope? I'm finding all this very hard cos I've suffered from depression for many years, attempted suicide on a couple of occasions - this man was my everything and now I feel very empty and lost.
Thank you
Basically we split up because of money issues. It wasn't a nasty break up, there were tears on both sides, the love was and is still there. We left things on him giving me a kiss goodbye and saying he would try to call me that night. Three weeks have passed and I've not heard a word from him - why is this?
I've sent him an e-mail or two (he hasn't had a phone for the past three months cos he can't afford the bill) but no response. I know he's been online a couple of times in the past three weeks cos he's updated his Facebook status. I'm going crazy, I feel like I need to talk to him cos I still love him and miss him - I've considered just packing my bag, forgetting about work and make the move down south because money doesn't buy you happiness.
I've gone out with my friends etc to try and take my mind off things but every day I still find myself thinking about him and beating myself up about things cos I feel like I've done something wrong with him not contacting me, even though I know I've done nothing wrong. I feel like I'm being punished.
How do I cope? I'm finding all this very hard cos I've suffered from depression for many years, attempted suicide on a couple of occasions - this man was my everything and now I feel very empty and lost.
Thank you