I love and live with someone with an addiction. Although, it isn't an every day addiction. He cycles. He does really well, remains sober from his drug of choice, wants to have alittle more fun than usual and maybe gets alittle depressed about life's pressures and then BOOM... gets high. Then we fight, i want to leave with my daughter so she isn't subject to the fighting and drug abuse. It is a horrible cycle. Rehab would NEVER work for him bc he is capable of being clean for 6months or so at a time. There isn't any counseling that will really help bc they want you to be in a rehab program while attending. It's a difficult situation... I need him to WANT sobriety for our family. This time his promises sound alittle more sencere... but I am at wits end. I can't do this another time with him. I have been doing this for 3 yrs with him now... ive been nice... ive been a shoulder to cry on and listen... Now.... I'm just mean. TOUGH LOVE. NEXT MOVE IS OUT THE DOOR. Im hurt, im tired, im sick of it..... i feel like im the one with the addiction bc everytime a situation comes up where his drug is mentioned, someone offers it... i get scared, nervous, defensive, i hope he makes the right decission bc i know i cant do that for him. Now... there is no shame in my game... this is MY family. I will straight up tell people if they wanna have "fun" they can do it somewhere else, get out, or don't even mention things drugs like that in our house please. Just a few nights ago me and my love were in an argument... he was worried and upset (as usual) about bills, life, work... I told him he was a pussy, to get over it, that's life! There are bills that need to be paid in order to pay them you must work. He chose this life, he bought this house, he bought that car. You choose your own destiny. If you wanna change, you have to make that change. There is no reason to be upset about it. He has the right to be stressed sometimes. But there is simply no use crying about it! No one feels bad bc EVERYONE has to do it. He told me i was 100% right. I am also very angry with his parents... I feel like they raised him to be the person that he is and it would be nice if i could recondition him. His mother babys her boys and, in my eyes, didn't raise MEN. They dont have two feet to stand on now bc of that up bringing. His father always played the friend role. Well... they don't need a friend they need good values and a father to teach them lessons. It took me yrs to see this. It's not something you would notice right away. That's all for now.