For a long time I've been subject to unwelcome touching. It makes me feel uncomfortable when a stranger or someone I'm not on a familiar basis with touches me in a non-sexual manner or forces me to accept a hug or kiss. It usually happens in social situations, and it's always a middle-aged or elderly woman. The touching has ranged from butt pats or butt squeezes, to tapping or patting my torso, back, legs, or shoulders. One woman whom I did not know at all thought it prudent to place both hands on my back and rub gently as she passed sideways behind me through a narrow corridor of tables and chairs. Another time when I went to get my father after his colonoscopy, his nurse took me by the elbow and led me like a horse to where he was waiting (you could never have told me before that how compelling it is to follow someone when they're tugging you by the elbow!). I've complained to people I do know about this, but they don't take me seriously, and it seems to be expected that, since I am a man and an adult, I should have no problem with it. I've been told that I'm overreacting. Yet growing up in school I was always taught that I had a right to resist unwelcome touching, and if it doesn't feel right, that it is definitely wrong. I feel like if I asked a person to not touch me in a social situation, it would be offensive to them and I'd be accused of causing a scene or being hypersensitive, so I say nothing. I know that unwelcome touch can legally constitute battery, but I think I'd make some people pretty mad in some situations if I filed for battery charges. I'm not a touching person, and I don't like being touched. I don't mind handshakes--I like shaking hands with people I meet or know. If I'm friends with someone, like say a girl, I'm very hesitant about how I touch them and I do very well to keep my hands to myself, even if certain kinds of platonic touch are welcome by them. I'll hug and kiss my mom, but that's because she's my mom. I'm also uncomfortable about strangers calling me names like "sweetie" or "honey." This most often happens in restaurants, but even in social situations or in college people have called me that. Does anyone have advice for dealing with this? I'm already a very nervous and shy person in social situations, but I don't want to be left out of all of them in order to avoid being touched in a way I don't like.