Dear * I know you think you are right - most all of the time - I know you "don't think" you "know" - but this time what you know is wrong. It is not what she needs, it is not what I need, it is sure as hell not what you need. THIS is not helping anyone. I matter too - YOU taught me that. And I am trying hard to hang on to the belief that that is true. I matter too and right now, this course of action, is letting everyone's future circle the drain. Just because a future isn't going to be what was wanted and planned, does not mean it cannot be reformed into something good and challenging and worthwhile. For everyone. You being miserable and depressed and lonely and not working does not help a single person in the world aside from maybe it helps you because you feel like you deserve it. You don't. I don't. She doesn't. So stop it. Change it. Please?