death of a cousin

Discussion in 'Grief and Bereavement' started by bitheway, Jan 14, 2008.

  1. bitheway

    bitheway Member

    Hi my cousin died in a car crash on June 21st 2007....Every day i think about her and all the things i wish i said or didnt say. I have so many regrets and i cant stop beating myself up for all the shit i said to her...the last time i talked to her i told her i am a lesbian...she said "your a fucking dyke" i wish i never told her...god if i didnt tell her she would have talked to me more....idk what to do anymore.

    Her mom now has carcinoma a serious case...i dont want to lose another relative....i hate cancer it ruins lives
     
  2. mortdesinos

    mortdesinos Well-Known Member

    I think the key is to appreciate what you have when you have it. You couldn't control the death of your cousin, so worrying about the past won't help you. I know it's hard not to, but what might help is thinking about the people you have in your life right now.. whether they'll be there in five weeks, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years.. who knows? But they're here now. When changes come, you will adjust. I hope you focus on the present and take everything as it comes.
     
  3. Petal

    Petal SF dreamer Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    im sorry for your loss :hug: