did you have an abusive partner?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by asking_advice, May 17, 2011.

  1. asking_advice

    asking_advice Well-Known Member

    did you have an abusive partner?
  2. hornbeam

    hornbeam Well-Known Member

    what kind of "abusive" do you mean.
  3. asking_advice

    asking_advice Well-Known Member

    abuser partner when it comes in emotional or physical..
  4. hornbeam

    hornbeam Well-Known Member

    yes - I have had many. Guys that have shouted at me and made me feel small - that can and I think can be classed as abusive. I left them all and went back to my family home each time.

    I hope you are safe((((hugs)))) no man/ woman should make you feel small - for some reason i assume you are a woman....... if he is physically abusing you - then you are within your rights to call the police. I know it seems impossible though..
  5. poisonedresistance

    poisonedresistance Well-Known Member

    My ex beat me and kept me down mentally. I was hospitalized 11 times with broken bones, cuts to my face, burns to my stomach and missing teeth. since ive left him though im discovering who i am and what i like.

    I will never stand for it again. i will give as good as i get and leave.
  6. MLKane

    MLKane Well-Known Member

    my ex-girlfriend used to hit me and slap me until I bruised and she got her bigger male friends to do it for her when she was really pissed. I got a couple of broken ribs and a broken nose but nothing serious. She cut me with a knife, sometimes just to hurt me and sometimes because she got a kick out of it, like sexually :(. She did worse too, but that's why I have a let it all out thread, I don't want to random-trigger people.
  7. xsomewhatdamagedx

    xsomewhatdamagedx Well-Known Member

    yeah my first ever boyfriend was very emotionally and mentally abusive to the point where i have had to change my email and number a few times because he wouldn't leave me alone and to be honest I'm still scared of men two years on.he treated me very badly and tried to control everything i did even the friends i had it really was one of the worst experiences of my life.he almost drove me to a nervous break down and i couldn't think clearly all i was concerned about was making him happy and not making him angry because he was a very strong guy he was also into kick boxing and martial arts to so i was terrified he would hurt me he ended up making me feel as if i was lowest of the low.
  8. lord.nigel

    lord.nigel Well-Known Member

    my last real life boyfriend used to verbally abuse me and i must admit i found it difficult. he would always:

    1. need me to stay over and if i didnt, id always have to justify why
    2. start arguments if i didnt want to eat where he did or was playful
    3. cheated with his mate and continued to want him to stay over

    i strongly believe anyone who is abusive does not deserve to be in a relationship and strongly believe such people never change. you are far better off without them.

  9. WildCherry

    WildCherry Staff Member ADMIN

    Yeah, I had an abusive partner. It started out as all verbal and emotional, and when he took it to the level of physical abuse, I left.
  10. oxygenidia

    oxygenidia Well-Known Member

    Yes.There is a part of me that is masoschistic definitely. I've come to realize that I have seeked these relationship out on some level though, and then stayed in them even after they turned abusive, so I have to ask myself why I did that? It's so strange that I did it two times in a row, even after I had left a horrible abusive relationship I got into another abusive relationship, so seriously, what is my problem?
    I never want to be in one of those relationships again. It's so destructive.
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  11. lightbeam

    lightbeam Antiquities Friend

    My wife would verbally abuse me and the kids. We are divorced now. What really gets me, is that I was arrested and jailed because when I fought back for once. Then she played the victim card.