Hey. Well my daughter is 16. She was diagnosed many years ago with ADD. She was on meds for it, but she never ate. I mean to the point that it started to stunt her growth. She has outgrown a lot of that, and she is now a healthy happy 16yr old. During the time of seperation, I had developed a very trusting relationship with my daughter. I let her cuss, we joke around alot..as I wanted her to feel that while I messed up a lot of things in life, I would never mess up with being her Father. Earlier on in her childhood we had to live for awhile with my wife's mom. Now this woman (my daughter's grandmother) always treated her like crap. Never EVER missed a chance to dump on her. My wife swore she would NEVER treat a child that way, especially her own daughter. And to her credit, my Wife has really hasnt been favoring one child over the other. But there is a huge difference between the 2 kids. My 11 yr old son is very intelligent for his age. Straight A honor roll kid, takes on massive responsibilites on his own. My daughter is a typical teenager. But my daughter would complain to me that her brother is the golden child and would get whatever he wants. I witnessed this last night to some extent. Now mind you, the wife and kids have only been living in the new house for like a week and a half. Things are still a bit cluttered. Wife went nuclear last night on my daughter. Complaining of the mess in the house. It wasnt garbage that was scattered around, rather it was stuff. DVD's and things like that. And then, my wife betrayed my confidence when I gave her a headsup on what my daughter was thinking about the perception of how she is being treated. My wife stated that I need to be careful as my daughter is playing me. Now I don't know if that is true or not. What I do know is my child has have a rough go of it for a long time..and I am trying to establish a sense of loving trust with her. I didnt fight over this with my wife last night. But I do feel that while my wife's intent is noble (trying to teach her responsibility etc) which is what I want too, I worry that we are going at it differently.