Disguising it as accident.

[the_nihilist_reason]

Do any of you think about covering up your suicide as an accident in order to lessen the likelihood that it will trigger others that are too close to you? Even when some of them aren't particularly or necessarily suicidal?
I know it makes little sense, since they will be devestated no matter what, but...

 

[itmahanh]

One of my attempts I tried to make it look accidental. But I failed and they found out anyway. I thought that if I made it look accidental then my family wouldn't have to live with the disgrace of suicide in the family. That really bothered me at one point that my family would be looked down on by others because of suicide.

 

[kitai16]

I thought about that once. But there's no point as my family now know about my last attempts coz I ended-up being taken to hospital and staying in for a week.

 

[the_nihilist_reason]

I thought that if I made it look accidental then my family wouldn't have to live with the disgrace of suicide in the family. That really bothered me at one point that my family would be looked down on by others because of suicide.

That is extremely considerate of you.
But even more so, I found it so sad and moving. When you consider someone elses wellbeing even in situations such as these... :mellow:

 

[the_nihilist_reason]

I thought about that once. But there's no point as my family now know about my last attempts coz I ended-up being taken to hospital and staying in for a week.

Glad that you are with us. :smile:
How did your family react to it initially?

 

[Esmeralda]

First off, the chances of it REALLY looking like an accident are SOOO slim. If you are in any way at an age where natural death is unlikely (even in the case of a possible suicide or accident), the police are likely to order an autopsy, during which they will probably find the true cause of death, regardless of appearance.

Secondly, whether you cover-up your suicide or not, your family wil ALWAYS re-think/re-visit your death, wonder how it happened, how you felt at the time, etc.

It will haunt your loved ones no matter what.

 

[kitai16]

Glad that you are with us. :smile:
How did your family react to it initially?

Thanks, but I don't know if I'm staying, to be honest. Only time will tell.

My family, well, my mum did exactly what I expected of her and was telling me how stupid I was, etc. Didn't exactly help when I was already feeling useless and worthless and everything already.

My nan got upset, but she hasn't said much about it to me coz when she calls me I don't really know what to say anymore. She's also really disappointed in my ex who'd promised her (when I moved all the way up here to be with him) that he'd look after me and never break-up with me.

My step-dad tried talking to me about how I was feeling, but then when none of his "it'll be alright" methods worked he started saying things about me being selfish for wanting to die.

 

[the_nihilist_reason]

Anastasia, you are right. It will certainly haunt people who need me in one way or the other.
However, in my case it is quite easy to drop dead and make it seem like an unplanned event. At least until I started posting here. :laugh:

 

[the_nihilist_reason]

Kitai,
I'm sorry to hear that the response of your family wasn't any more supportive. That was cruel.
It's not easy to be in a sucidal position. We sort of see through the bullshit we are being fed with.

I hope you can find strength for yourself to get above all of this.
Cute avatar by the way. :smile:

 

[kitai16]

Kitai,
I'm sorry to hear that the response of your family wasn't any more supportive. That was cruel.
It's not easy to be in a sucidal position. We sort of see through the bullshit we are being fed with.

I hope you can find strength for yourself to get above all of this.
Cute avatar by the way. :smile:

Thanks, hun.

They all say they're there for me, and have been asking me to move back down to the area where they are. But it doesn't matter what they say, or where I go; my problems will follow me and they can't do anything about it even if they were more supportive.

 

[Daze&Confused]

My step-dad tried talking to me about how I was feeling, but then when none of his "it'll be alright" methods worked he started saying things about me being selfish for wanting to die.

Sometimes i feel that my friends and family are the selfish ones, for wanting me to live. Just to avoid having the pain or stigma of suicide, i should stay alive regardless how much pain and suffering i'm in.

 

[kitai16]

Sometimes i feel that my friends and family are the selfish ones, for wanting me to live. Just to avoid having the pain or stigma of suicide, i should stay alive regardless how much pain and suffering i'm in.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I don't view suicide as selfish. I don't like it when people try to use emotional blackmail to make you carry on living for their sake (that's selfish of them to ask you to do so).

I can't just live for other people; I have to live for myself as well.

They can't call you selfish for wanting to make a choice about your own life. Asking you to think about things and not do anything rash, I can understand. Because ending life can't be undone, so you should think about alot, weigh-up all options (if you have any others), and makes sure it's really what you want before doing anything. You have to be as sure as you can that ending your life isn't a mistake, because, as I said; it can't be undone.

But, in the end, it should always be our own choice.

 

[Shyfear]

First off, the chances of it REALLY looking like an accident are SOOO slim. If you are in any way at an age where natural death is unlikely (even in the case of a possible suicide or accident), the police are likely to order an autopsy, during which they will probably find the true cause of death, regardless of appearance.

Secondly, whether you cover-up your suicide or not, your family wil ALWAYS re-think/re-visit your death, wonder how it happened, how you felt at the time, etc.

It will haunt your loved ones no matter what.

Hey I agree with your statement totally. Though I must say that an autopsy doesn't always solve the mystery. After my sister's suicide an autopsy was ordered but it didn't clarify how she died at all, which I find odd. We just assumed it was suicide because of the overdose, then I went to a psychic to get answers, and that worked much better. Maybe her autopsy was just a fluke though, everything in her body was failing.

Anyway, I agree. The family will always think about it, the 'what if's' are still going to be there, though it is a bit worse knowing it was suicide.

 

[kitai16]

I'd prefere to make it look like an accident if I could.

 

[Tumbleweed 002]

Do any of you think about covering up your suicide as an accident in order to lessen the likelihood that it will trigger others that are too close to you? Even when some of them aren't particularly or necessarily suicidal?
I know it makes little sense, since they will be devestated no matter what, but...

I always think of situations where I can make it look like an accident. Most of the time i'm in my car. I hate the thoughts but I'm not happy with my life anymore.

 

[SkyHigh]

Do any of you think about covering up your suicide as an accident in order to lessen the likelihood that it will trigger others that are too close to you? Even when some of them aren't particularly or necessarily suicidal?
I know it makes little sense, since they will be devestated no matter what, but...

I've read about that, it's actually easy to do that but you must first lose your fear of pain because, say you were going to cross the road on rollerblades, you wouldn't know if the vehicle was going to go over you or just knock you onto the ground. Since most people want to go painlessly they probably would rather take their lives by their own hands.

.......or maybe that's just me :unsure:

 

[kitai16]

I'd prefere to make it look like an accident if I could.

I hope nobody finds me on this site if I do ever die from a real accident coz they may think it was actually suicide now I posted that. :unsure:

 

[cephalopodian]

hello
yah -- i'm wanting to disguise mine as an accident ... so folks only miss me and don't feel like they let me down or it was their fault. it seems like the way to go to be kind ot the family/friends

 

[zetaf]

what if instead of disguising it like an accident, you disguised it as murder? By that of course I mean an unknown murderer... not framing someone... that's just cruel.