This is actually in response to Blackness recent poll/post about 'Do You Hate Yourself'. It got me thinking. People are always saying 'how can you expect anyone to love you if you first cannot love yourself?' But so many of us on here are in relationships and so many of us on here hate ourselves. I have two friends who actually met their partners on this website, I have said to both of them surely this can't be healthy, being with someone who is suffering also, won't you just set each other off and so on... but both of them seem to be very happy with their boy/girlfriends and they've said if anything that person has helped them. I can see now how it might be easier to have someone who understands what you are going through as opposed to someone who gets frustrated when you are down and cannot relate. But people constantly talk about how they are attracted to confident people who are happy in their own skin and so on and so forth. So - okay before I ramble on too much; what do you guys think?