I've had a sex life, quite a few of them actually,starting at 21 yrs, some one night stands, some short flings, some serious relationships, and almost married once. (As Woody Allen once said, "When it comes to meaningless experiences casual sex is one of the best."
However, I haven't had sex in 9 years. One of my main reasons is that I got tired of all the bladder infections. Sex literally makes me sick. The problem started around 28 and just kept getting worse and more severe. Don't give me advice on this, I've read and heard it all, believe me. I also the developed Interstitial Cystitis and sex makes that worse too. No advice on this either please. I'm an expert already. Nothing has worked. It's a shame because it was one area of my life where I had no issues, no psychological hang-ups and one way I could relate in a healthy way to people. I've never once been left by a man and that might be one reason why--they couldn't give up the sex even if it wasn't working otherwise. The fact that I'm reclusive now probably has a lot to do with being unwilling to get involved in a sexual relationship anymore. I at least used to have a boyfriend. Now I don't even have that. I'm not good at relating to people otherwise, and mostly don't want to, but a sexual relationship used to make it easier on both accounts.
Guess you could say my chronic physical health problems are compounding my psychological ones.