Thank you Acy that means a lot. My post was more about the people i encounter in real life. I know on here lots of people are nice supportive and caring. Its when i leave the house and into the real world where no one really cares
I get that. I know that most people when I leave the house are not really that interested in me…most probably don’t care all that much at all. But there are some who do care. There are some who stop and take the time to chat or listen or whatever…deeper relationships take more time to develop. They take time and various “exchanges” between the people involved. It can be hard to tell which people will come through and care for us as we care for them until we have a chance to see how we and they behave in a moment of need.
I think a number of people are very “self involved” and out for whatever is in it for them. They pay lip service to friendship and deeper caring, When the crunch comes, they seem to scurry into the woodwork again. That doesn’t mean all
of them will do that. So we need to keep our eyes and hearts open to let the ones who do care back show us they care. It can be very scary if we’ve had lots of disappointments…without taking the risks, we don’t know if they care or not.
One of the most rewarding things I have found is that in giving of myself to others, a lot of people return the favour at some point. I don’t give to keep a tally of what I’ve given and who owes me in return. The ones who really care, eventually show me they care. The ones who don’t? Well, at least I’ve been kind to them and didn’t give only with an expectation to receive.
Not everyone will care about us, here or irl. Not everyone we are kind to will show us kindness in return. But when we put out more caring and kindness ourselves, it increases the caring and kindness going around in the world. That increases the chances that one way or another, caring and kindness will come our way.
I suppose I’m trying to find and hope for the most positive spin on things. For me
, it’s better to have hope than to think life is determined and nothing I do will help, and that life is hopeless and dark. People, in my experience, are usually social creatures, so I hope that eventually, we can all find a niche with others somewhere.