Does anyone else take everything personally?

[A_pixie]

Tried to add someone on facebook who I didn't know (but had seen on youtube) and I cannot for the life of me believe I'm depressed that they rejected my friend request....

What the hell is wrong wth me?

Didn't get invited to a friend's birthday party, this is cause for me to go into a full blown rage and delete all their contact details and block them and wish them the worst for all eternity...I actually hate them.

I have given so many horrid people chance after chance....bad things have happened to me due to giving people to many chances. HOWEVER I happen to just not be perfect and these so-called friends abandon me.

My ex ran off with a 15 year old and everyone likes the fucking pedophile due to him being "entertaining" in social situations. Gary Glitter was fucking entertaining once!

I just don't know what to do....I take everything to heart and there seem to be a lot of people out there more than willing to hurt others.

 

[jameslyons]

I take things too personally all the time. But I'm not sure if that's a bad thing. Often times, people who are hypersensitive to other's behaviors are merely suffering from too good a perspective. If you read somebody's behavior and get a feeling regarding you, then there's a chance it's true.

That's how it seems to me anyhow. I suppose it's important to not let other people's behavior emotionally affect you at a supersensitive level. I don't know how to stop that.

 

[mdmefontaine]

i've always taken everything personally. i am responsible for world hunger. fighting in the middle east. and construction during rush hour in chicago, los angeles, and new york.

""i'm sorry'' is my most used phrase,(( other than, '''are you hungry, can i make you something?"" ))

i think it is part of being a '''people pleaser''. . . or maybe, a perfectionist.
maybe those two, go hand-in-hand.

i am always sure, if i get it ''perfect'' i will be loved and everyone will be happy.
riiiiight.

 

[JohnADreams]

I used to do that to some degree but now I'm slowly moving away from criticizing myself for every little thing that goes wrong.

 

[plates]

Depends who it's from. If it's from someone I love and trust, yes, if it's a complete fucking idiot, no. :smile:

 

[~Claire]

I always take things personally.

I am way too sensitive for this world.

 

[wheresmysheep]

always.

 

[Kringle]

i have the same problem and its annoying as hell cause you dont even know why it bothers you half the time but it does.

 

[Stranger1]

Yepp!! Mine is a gut rencher. I get my stomach all in knots from holding it all in..

 

[crookxshanks]

i get told off for saying 'im sorry'. even if its not i always feel like everythings my fault in some way. not in a narcissistic way but because its just how i feel. like there was something that i could have done to prevent it. so yes.. im very good at taking things personally

 

[xan]

""i'm sorry'' is my most used phrase

My friends tried to make me put 10p in a jar for every time I say sorry... seriously it's that much it annoys them.

 

[LastCrusade]

if u r going to get upset over a rejected FB friendship request, you're going to be upset in many other things in life. take it easy. i also do not simply accept FB friendship requests because I had a few nasty experiences where I accepted strangers requests and they keep sending me marketing spams and even calling me to join their direct marketing business. Maybe the person also faced such spams cos many of my friends also experienced this.

 

[artikchill]

Back in when my ex was prego.. well way before that I did, just because it was me but now sense I'm going through a hard time.. I kind of backed off.

 

[Fern17]

As all of you have expressed, I have also struggled with taking things personally. I'm actually slowly realizing that when I'm taking things too personally I am:

1) in a depression (and was probably in some type of depression for much of my life)
2) taking on other people's problems; confusing their problems for my own

The second is a HUGE life lesson I'm constantly working on. When someone doesn't accept you--whether on facebook or in person--that is about them and not about you. It is impossible for every person in this world to like and accept every other person in this world. Think about it--there is not one celebrity that EVERYONE likes. Even the most likable ones (in my mind) like Oprah or Ellen, have plenty of people who can't stand them!

I'm kind of all over the place on this subject. But over all, I just wanted to say that I spent most of my life taking EVERYTHING personally. I've only recently been getting a handle on it. The good news is that you CAN reach a point where every single thing someone else does or says (or doesn't do or say) won't impact your own confidence in yourself. It's possible. Trust me.

 

[Zurkhardo]

I suspect that in my case, as with most others, taking things personally is a reflection of deeper insecurity, lack of confidence, and the placement of too much importance on how others percieve you.

 

[Allie123]

My friends tried to make me put 10p in a jar for every time I say sorry... seriously it's that much it annoys them.

my friends have tried all sorts of tactics to get me to stop. one of them slaps me on the head every time I apologize, another friend makes me give a detailed description as to why I am sorry and how it is my fault, another friend just tells me to shut up... so yeah... I can relate.

 

[A_pixie]

Thank you for the responses everyone

Im pretty useless at taking my own advice I mean I would be saying what a lot of people one here have said, should someone else be asking this question!

Also....you know when you have to keep reminding yourself that you don't know the full story behind people's actions....that and there are people going through a lot worse who handle life better...

I think you have to keep reminding yourself of these things...

 

[LastCrusade]

come to think about it, if every girl that I rejected during my younger days were to get overly sensitive and kill themselves, there would have been quite a fair bit of orbituaries. But they didnt you see. Rejection is all part of life. Some people will reject you, some will accept you. Just like in this forum, you may have some friends and you may have some who you simply can't get along with purely due to different opinions. So you can't just go get depressed over any rejection. We cannot please or gain the approval of everyone. Not in this forum, what more about life?

 

[resistance]

I too take a lot personally. I'd be upset with the two examples you gave in the first post, also. I don't know what I can say of help, as I'm guilty of it myself but I guess what I could say is when people do/say things, they don't always mean for you to take it as personally as you do. For example, that dude on YouTube, perhaps they didn't realise it was you, or maybe they only add people to their facebook who are good friends and are really selective with who they add. With the friends party, any chance they innocently forgot to ask you? Yeah I know forgetting to ask in itself is horrible but I mean, perhaps they didn't mean it in a nasty "I-don't-want-them-coming-to-my-party" sorta way. Maybe you could ask your friend why you weren't invited? :hug:

 

[intothewild]

Yes, I always take everything personally.

The worst thing for me is that I always end up feeling really guilty about some tiny thing that I did to someone hours before.