I joined this community, because I need someone to talk to. I dont know what to do about my boyfriend. I am a stay-at-home-mom. I recently turned 21 and my son is 6 months old.
My boyfriend has to have some control of everything I do. I have to get permission to go anywhere. I always have to tell who I am going to see, who's going to be there, where I am going, when I am going to be back. If I dont have a good reason to go somewhere then he wont let me go. He makes me feel like an Idiot. I have to beg and cry sometimes, just to go to the grocery store.
He tells me to look for a job, but when I fill out an application, he says dont work there, you dont need to be working. Then somedays he comes home and says I dont do anything and that I am lazy. He wont help me take care of the baby. He expects me to have the house clean all the time, make him food when he is hungry. I also have to do everything he asks, or he makes me feel bad. He likes to talk bad about my family. He only uses $20 to get grocies to last for 2 weeks. We eat noodles all the time, while he goes out and buys video games and movies.
He cusses and calls me different bad names. He makes demeaning comments to me. I tell him its not right. But he says that he will say whatever he wants to me. He tries to convince me that I am weak, stupid, and that there is something wrong with me.
I am posting this because I want to make things work between us, because he is not alwys like this. I dont know what to do. I want some help, because I feel so defenseless when we argue. Most of the time he disgards my argument because I dont know how to express my feeling so that he can understand. He has a way of manipulating everything I say to work against me.
My boyfriend has to have some control of everything I do. I have to get permission to go anywhere. I always have to tell who I am going to see, who's going to be there, where I am going, when I am going to be back. If I dont have a good reason to go somewhere then he wont let me go. He makes me feel like an Idiot. I have to beg and cry sometimes, just to go to the grocery store.
He tells me to look for a job, but when I fill out an application, he says dont work there, you dont need to be working. Then somedays he comes home and says I dont do anything and that I am lazy. He wont help me take care of the baby. He expects me to have the house clean all the time, make him food when he is hungry. I also have to do everything he asks, or he makes me feel bad. He likes to talk bad about my family. He only uses $20 to get grocies to last for 2 weeks. We eat noodles all the time, while he goes out and buys video games and movies.
He cusses and calls me different bad names. He makes demeaning comments to me. I tell him its not right. But he says that he will say whatever he wants to me. He tries to convince me that I am weak, stupid, and that there is something wrong with me.
I am posting this because I want to make things work between us, because he is not alwys like this. I dont know what to do. I want some help, because I feel so defenseless when we argue. Most of the time he disgards my argument because I dont know how to express my feeling so that he can understand. He has a way of manipulating everything I say to work against me.
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