Does life end when you have sex?

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  1. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    I was talking with a friend while we were driving around. And I was talking about how a guy I know has said that you have not lived until you have had sex. And my friend said that it is quite the opposite. He told me you stopped living when you have sex. He said it is the only thing on your mind and things build up and yeah it is problematic. He told me how is girlfriend, his first sex partner, was practically begging him to have sex with her after them being together for a year.

  2. jcat

    jcat Staff Alumni

    i just wish i had a girlfiend that begged me to have sex with her. i don't have one now. no, i don't think life ends when you have sex.
  3. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    Hmmm well why do you think that?

    Also this friend of mine did not do ANYTHING with his girlfriend. He did not make ANY sexual advances build any sexual tension he did not even kiss her for the first couple of months that they were dating.

    I have other theories about WHY his girlfriend would have begged him. But that is off topic. Anyway try that, try just having a relationship that is non-physical.

  4. Darken

    Darken Well-Known Member

    Secks <3 . It can hurt some people and it can make some people feel better, depends on the person and situation.
  5. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    Ok I am not asking about that. Was my question not clear in the first post?

  6. Axiom

    Axiom Account Closed

    I think he answered you just in a general way. Sure it can hurt life, if that's all you do.. i suppose? People have sex and live their lives. The two are the same, just a different aspect of life. Like any aspect, if you tunnel vision one, you miss out on everything else. It's possible to tunnel vision and be deaf to other things. And it's possible to tunnel vision but still be aware to life, and in that instance, making you miserable because you have a lack of balance. You can have sex multipul times a day and still live and love life, so .... my thoughts are your friend needs to re-find his motivation and reawaken his desire for life.

    I disagree with your friend. His perception of his problem is also tunnel visioned in my opinon. And that's my thoughts
  7. I wonder why there isn't a Sex&Relationships forum on SF. Seems like popular topics here.
  8. Axiom

    Axiom Account Closed

    Toss the idea in the suggestion box if you think it'd be used
  9. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    Did we not see the result of the Adult Chat Room, might be why Robin and others are skeptical of that topic being here.
  10. Tara

    Tara Guest

    i wonder if that would be said if it was he who was "begging" for sex?

    just a thought.
    Just thinking too, that if she wasnt a virgin, then she prob couldnt cope going a year without sex lol. though myself ive gone 3! i dont care tho. but some people "need" it?

    I dont think you can say either, or, tbh. if that makes sense. If you havent had sex you could think "ive never lived, ive not had sex" yet if u have had sex you could think "damn ive stopped living" ?

    i dont think that ive stopped living because ive had sex. i dont think im controlled by it.

    I think different people see it different ways, and you'll never get a straight answer.
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  11. Jackson

    Jackson Guest

    I agree with Zohmygob. If you have mostly good experiences with sex, you will want it to continue. We like things that make us feel good obviously. If you obsess about it, you are either at that peculiar stage in life that many experience or you have problems that you need to address.
  12. Sex is only for procreation, anything besides that is LUST. And I am not a Christian.

    Most Christians disagree with this and they think that they can lust in their marriage.

    There's no place for an adult section on these boards.

    No place for perversions. My opinion. :)
  13. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    No I know this guy. He has been dumped many times for not trying to kiss his girlfriends after a month of dating. I believe that he is telling the truth. I mean in reality I have only met ONE other female online who is a virgin. And since 80% of the females I meet online are between the ages of 14 and 16... yeah. I have no doubt in my mind that was the case.

    He made the point of saying that life is normal when he has a steady supply of sex. To be honest I do not see not ever having had sex as a problem. YEah sometimes curiosity bites at me but whatever.

    Anyway I am not looking for a straight answer. I am looking for peoples life experiences and seeing what they thought on the topic.

    Ha ha I used to think the same thing. But I abandoned those thoughts over time. I still fear the procreation part but whatever.

    Do not worry it is not like I am running out the door to lust. I could not pay a person enough to let them touch me let alone fuck me, I am a hideous failure of a human being.
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  14. Insignificant

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    there is this particular friend that i work with who refuses to have sex before marriage and any girlfriend he has knows this. most of his relationships haven't lasted too long but he has been with his current gf for about nine months now. life doesn't end without it.

    personally i am totally turned off by it so i must say that part of my life has ended but not my life as a whole.
  15. Malcontent

    Malcontent Staff Alumni

    What's so bad about lust? It's a perfectly natural physical reaction in my opinion. And I also don't think that enjoying sex is a perversion, our bodies are designed to enjoy it.

    Anyway, for me sex is a lot of fun but it's not the be all and end all of my life. Just one of my many hobbies :smile: I recently went 8 months without having sex, and I wasn't upset that I wasn't getting any.
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  16. Lust leads to rape, porn, prostitution, abortion, etc.

    The pleasure of the flesh, carnal pleasure, whatever it's called. It's bad. There's a lot to say on this. As an Anarcho-Primitivist, I know that humans as all other animals have a sexual instinct to procreate.

    As bad as civilization is, i think that we need morals in a civilized society, it's either that, or it's back to the jungle, but we just can't live like monkeys in a 'civilized world'.

    Lust pollutes the mind. It's for your own selfish pleasure. If you have any heart u'd be oppose to it.

    Lust is the opposite and enemy of love. I know I'm ranting and raving a lot, kinda makes me feel pathetic. But there's my opinion. No need to ramble, and elaborate, u got the idea.

    Christians are usually both perverts and selfish capitalists. And they assume I as a non-religious Communist, have no morals and i'm lazy. Fuking arrogant hypocrits. Praise Jesus.


    I am not planning on ever having children, and therefore I don't think I'll ever give in to lust and have sex for my own selfish pleasure. :)

    Porn has screwed up my mind.

    Every girl is someone's daughter.
    Wouldn't want my daughter to ever be used as a sexual object.
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  17. Forgotten_Man

    Forgotten_Man Well-Known Member

    @Insignificant: I know life does not end without it. I admire your friend, although it does not take much to achieve what he has. But in a way he also proves that life ends when you have it. Because once you associate sex with romance. When you are in a romantic relationship and NOT getting any you get pissed off or something, I don't know.

    Well give your friend my respect for me.

    @Malcontent: Hobbies are good, hopefully one day I will have a similar one that is not by myself.
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  19. Malcontent

    Malcontent Staff Alumni

    What about people who can't procreate? Like people who are sterile or gay people? Should they not have sex?
  20. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    How does lust lead to rape, porn, prostitution and abortion? Lust for people that aren't criminal and aren't out to hurt people is a positive and wonderful feeling. I'm sorry for you that you won't/can't/don't want to experience that.

    Not all sexual acts are to procreate. If you don't want to procreate you use protection so you won't bring children into the world that you aren't ready to raise. Everyone has animal instincts whether it be lust or any other act of human nature.

    So lust pollutes the mind...and it's for your own selfish pleasure. Than i must be one polluted and selfish FEMALE for liking the feeling of being loved and someone showing me that they love me. So I have no heart because I enjoy the lustful feeling..AMEN TO THAT THAN..A FUCKIN' MEN.:smile:

    Why generalize all Christians as being arrogant hypocrits..thats awfully judgemental since you clearly don't know ALL Christians. I don't assume you are a non religious Communist and I was raised as a Christian. I don't practice anymore but I find you to have your opinions but to me they are misguided. Sorry just my opinion.


    Well I'm glad you aren't willing to bring a child into this world if you are not willing to raise it or wanting to take care of it. That's a plus on you. Porn has screwed up your is not love nor lust it's two people getting paid to fuck..I'm sorry but it's the truth.

    As for every girl is someone's daughter...I'm someone's daughter and I'm in love with someone that doesn't USE me as a sexual there..your thoughts are misguided...sorry.
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