I seperated from a 10 year abusive relationship bout 2 years ago. Him and I had 2 children during this time.... Now that I have decided to move on he did everything he could to destory the relationship at the point of calling child services the day my boyfriend arrived saying he had sexualy abused our eldest ( had not even got off the plane yet). eventually my new beau and I were married. But soon after the pressures came to much and we seperated... I finnaly met someone for the first time in my life accepted me for who I was and as I was no matter what faults I had... I was "perfect" in his eyes.. He knew bout the father and I never lied to him and he still wanted to be there and protect and nuture and support me though it all.... Today he was privy to a phone conversation between the father and I ( I was being honest bout what "allan" was like) he has now decided it may be to much for him ( and I honestly don't blame him) thus being said when him and I were talking ( calm and honest )I had said to him I know now that as long as he exists I won't be free I am his "property" and anyone ever envading it will forever be a threat to be destroyed. He is up for domestic charges for the 4th TIME in june and as all others closer to date they drop most charges and AGAIN they ONLY asking for probation. I am at the point I don't see much choice in freedom. The only choice is as I have said before one of us must go.. There was a point when I told allan next fight only one walks out. He still abuses me abuses the kids and any potential mate I may find. He has no real interest in the kids other then a holding tool on me. The courts can protect me the police can't ( he keeps breaching restraining orders) and I can't protect the kids nor future possible spouses so what good am I? May be time for the last "fight"