Don't be "that" guy

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Bigman2232, Jan 1, 2009.

  1. Bigman2232

    Bigman2232 Well-Known Member

    That's what I heard tonight. "That" guy is the guy who looks after the girl and her stuff while someone else gets to go home with her at the end of the night. This is my life. I am not the guy who picks up girls at a bar. I am not the one who knows what they are doing. But I am the one, who no matter how drunk I get, will watch over my friends. That is the guy I am. I am lonely but I will be who I am.
  2. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    YOu also have to watch over yourself, and that means having fun.

    Oh, I love being a hypocrite. :biggrin:
  3. hammockmonkey

    hammockmonkey Well-Known Member

    It's better than being the other "That guy", you know the one. That creepy dude who's hitting on girls but is not having any luck and everyone wants him to just leave.

    You know, me.
  4. HappyAZaClaM

    HappyAZaClaM Guest

    deleted post. almost attempted thread jacking. ooops. sorry....
  5. itmahanh

    itmahanh Senior Member & Antiquities Friend

    You are the guy that everyone respects and trusts. You are the guy that people keep coming back to. The guy that gets the girl and ends up at her place is the same guy that ends up back at the bar to find yet someone else. He just like you still has to keep looking. But he is almost always forgotten about by the next morning. You are respected and trusted. Doesnt sound like much when all you want is the girl but hun it does mean a lot. All you have to do is learn how to be the guy that they all trust but also show them that you can have fun too. I know, I'm like you. But I'm the girl that everyone trusts while they are all getting the guys to go home with. But it does feel good knowing that I'm trustworthy and respected. And I still manage to sneak a little fun in there too. Do you really want to be the guy that everyone knows is good for a quick lay but nothing else?
  6. Bigman2232

    Bigman2232 Well-Known Member

    I'd like to be both.
  7. Dave_N

    Dave_N Guest

    Someone has to be the 'nice guy' that the girls trust and respect. I'm kind of like that too. I have this friend who I'm pretty close with and she'll tell me practically everything, but will she give me a shot with her? Not a chance in hell. :laugh:
  8. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Sounds like something to be proud day the right girl will come along for you and you can tell her how caring you where to others. :hug:
  9. InnerStrength

    InnerStrength Well-Known Member

    There's a difference between being caring and being a doormat. To the OP, you can be caring, just don't let people walk all over you!
  10. Bigman2232

    Bigman2232 Well-Known Member

    Well I definitely know the difference and I usually stay out of the doormat area. Just getting tired of being alone and most of it is that I really have no idea what I'm doing.
  11. I think most people just muddle through relationships and life.

    If you want a relationship, then I suggest trying to pursue one. Then you wouldn't feel 'alone' anymore (even tho I'm sure you have plenty of friends).