Don't like me?

Discussion in 'Rants, Musings and Ideas' started by Sa Palomera, Jul 12, 2008.

  1. Sa Palomera

    Sa Palomera Well-Known Member

    That's your prerogative, and I'm fine with that. We can't like everyone, just like we can't expect everyone to like us :dunno:
    Just don't talk to me on IMs if you don't like me/have no interest in getting to know me.

    Don't talk to me just out of pity, or just when you need something, because I do not appreciate being used like that, nor do I need your pity.
    I'd rather sit and stare at an empty screen, than sitting here chatting on IMs with people who only talk to me for those reasons. :rolleyes:

    If you're my friend, you can always come to me for anything I could be of help with, or if you need anything, yes. But if you don't like me, then don't talk to me if you need something, cos I have no interest.

    You see.. about a year ago, I found out who were my friends and who only said to be my friends. I don't hate those who turned out not to be friends. I don't hate people. Nor do I dislike them. It's just the way the internet works I guess. And these days I'd call most people from the internet with whom I talk acquaintances rather than friends. I found out I only have a handful of actual friends and that's enough for me. Not saying I don't want any new friends, don't get me wrong. I just don't want any new so-called friends who turn out not to be friends after all.

    I do not hate people from here, and I'm not a person to hold grudges. Admittedly I have disliked a few people from this site with a passion, but today I got thinking, and you know what? It's the internet. some people aren't who you think they are, or who you'd like them to be or whatever. The internet is unpredictable and all that. And you know what, I let it go.
    And I'd like to keep it that way.

    But my message is that I'm sick of people talking to me if they have no interest in me and/or my life. I'm not some person you can just go to if you need something.
    Want to be friends? You're more than welcome to contact me, just don't be fake or feign interest if you don't give a shit :smile: That's all I ask for.


    EDIT: this isn't directed at anyone in particular, just frustrations regarding online friendships in general

    EDIT 2: I realise I myself have been guilty of the things mentioned too, so I will change my behaviour in that aspect myself as well, otherwise I'd be the biggest hypocrite of all.
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  2. Ziggy

    Ziggy Antiquitie's Friend

    I've probably said this before on this site, but it means a lot to me.

    I had a mate at University, who I was really envious of, popular guy, lots of girlfriends, parties etc., whereas nobody liked me apart from him and I never really understood why. Then he developed a lot of problems, drug related, paranoia and stuff and one day he said to me "You're my only friend", and that really changed me, it struck me, that no matter what people thought of us, the fact that we even had a single friend meant that we were both truely blessed.

    However, I think the other people meant well, it's just that you don't realise what friendship is really about until you realise that it involves pain as well as pleasure, it's as frustrating as it is pleasurable and you arrive at the point where suddenly it matters more than anything else. I never really understood what it was all about, until suddenly it really mattered.
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  3. plates

    plates Well-Known Member

    I felt a lot like you, with people in real life and everywhere really. I never put too much hope anywhere, all I wanted was something genuine and I never found it..or I found it very rarely, with my gf and someone else.

    But great post. I think you got your feelings out well. :hug: You deserve people who do care. Lately I'm very wrapped up in my own issues and am a bit all over the place but I have appreciated your worry and your kind words. I relate to a lot what you've said. Friends on the internet... it just never worked for me. I never used to expect much from people or trust anybody really. I just kept everyone at a safe distance...and let only people I genuinely love into my thoughts.

    :hug: take care Ish I used to spend ages helping absolute strangers on MSN and things and I'd feel, at times, just WTF am I doing this for? I'm a bit like counsellor. Then I realised it's because I was lonely and I needed a friend. But I've stopped that now.
  4. ~PinkElephants~

    ~PinkElephants~ Senior member

    Esty est.
    You know I love you girlie girl. No matter what we've been through we've always managed to still be friends. There is nothing empty meaning in that statement. You're a good friend and a good person in general and I wouldn't change you for the world. You got my msn if you need it.