I've seen these studies before. Solitary lifestyles mean shorter lives. I know that and I know that my own life is WAY too solitary. And I honestly DO want to change that but I don't know how. Loneliness will kill you, scientists caution I'm turning 44 in a week. This last year was exactly like the one before it and the one before that and on and on for the last 6-7 years. Since my divorce I guess. I had grand plans a week ago to do something about it THIS year. Get out more, travel, meet people, do something adventurous. But like every other time I've made the decision to change, I find myself so wildly unhappy that I just can't see a way forward. That's maybe why I'm still stuck where I am. I've heard lots of advice about joining clubs and so on, and that sounds good but I just haven't been able to make myself make that leap. I work, eat and sit at home waiting to go to work the next day. I gave up my TV because I was spending too much time doing that at the end of the day, but now I'm spending all my time on the computer surfing a handful of sites every few minutes to see if something has changed. Staying up late, forced to get up early by my pup who needs to go outside. I eat like crap, because I'm alone and it's easier than cooking. I can't tell you the last time I WENT to the movies, let alone watched one at home. I get along with the people I work with, but I don't have any social life outside of work. I don't drink or smoke, so that's good but really other than working, eating, surfing and sleeping I don't do anything. I have an appointment to go see the therapist I saw after my divorce. I liked him and it was a good outlet, so hopefully this time something will change. I just literally have no idea how NOT to be that lonely old guy who ends up dying because life just got the better of him. Like my father. Anyway, I know everyone is in pain and this is just a lot of nonsense rambling, but if you have any ideas I'd be happy to hear them.