O-kay...
The situation is this:
A friend of mine emailed me today and asked if I would want to go with him to a thing in December. (let me clarify XD lol; by 'thing' I mean award ceremony. He's receiving an award for a film he directed)
We've talked before about how I feel about the whole 'dating scene' and that I'm not ready, so I just assumed he would understand my feelings.
I said, I will think about it-- but my answer is a tentative yes.
I didn't clarify right away if he was considering it a date or..um... agh! I don't know. I'm just kind of confused now.
I don't want to let him down by going as his date to this big fancy thing and then not putting out or something... -__- lol (I'm more than positive any other girl he'd ask to be his date would put out after a night of extravagance.)
About our relationship - we've been close friends since highschool. We worked together at the movie theater, he was always like a brother to me.
In College (we went to the same film school) he had been cheated on by his second long-term girlfriend (his first one cheated on him too. really not fair because he is a great guy.) and he was going through a rough time, so I let him vent to me and say whatever he liked.
It's been my understanding that his feelings for me have always been more than friendship but I've only ever had eyes for my (now) ex.
He is a good friend. I was part of cast/crew for 4 of his 7 films he has directed and produced - we work well together.
I don't want to fuck up our relationship by letting him down or hurting his feelings...
should I tell him to ask another girl to be his date?
Should I just come out and tell him I don't want for it to be a formal 'date' thing...? Would I sound stupid or stuck up telling him that if he already knew? Am I just overthinking this wayyyy too much, as usual? o_0
...I don't know the rules of this game. I'm confused...
I also am not certain that I will be feeling up to going to a public event by then or not. Only time will tell, I suppose.
The situation is this:
A friend of mine emailed me today and asked if I would want to go with him to a thing in December. (let me clarify XD lol; by 'thing' I mean award ceremony. He's receiving an award for a film he directed)
We've talked before about how I feel about the whole 'dating scene' and that I'm not ready, so I just assumed he would understand my feelings.
I said, I will think about it-- but my answer is a tentative yes.
I didn't clarify right away if he was considering it a date or..um... agh! I don't know. I'm just kind of confused now.
I don't want to let him down by going as his date to this big fancy thing and then not putting out or something... -__- lol (I'm more than positive any other girl he'd ask to be his date would put out after a night of extravagance.)
About our relationship - we've been close friends since highschool. We worked together at the movie theater, he was always like a brother to me.
In College (we went to the same film school) he had been cheated on by his second long-term girlfriend (his first one cheated on him too. really not fair because he is a great guy.) and he was going through a rough time, so I let him vent to me and say whatever he liked.
It's been my understanding that his feelings for me have always been more than friendship but I've only ever had eyes for my (now) ex.
He is a good friend. I was part of cast/crew for 4 of his 7 films he has directed and produced - we work well together.
I don't want to fuck up our relationship by letting him down or hurting his feelings...
should I tell him to ask another girl to be his date?
Should I just come out and tell him I don't want for it to be a formal 'date' thing...? Would I sound stupid or stuck up telling him that if he already knew? Am I just overthinking this wayyyy too much, as usual? o_0
...I don't know the rules of this game. I'm confused...
I also am not certain that I will be feeling up to going to a public event by then or not. Only time will tell, I suppose.