Drinking issues?

Discussion in 'Self Harm & Substance Abuse' started by VALIS, Dec 19, 2010.

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  1. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    Does anyone feel qualified to offer an opinion about my drinking?

    I know there are criteria such as ability to perform at work/school, relationship health, physical health, drinking alone or in the morning.

    I don't meet any of those criteria.

    However when I do drink it is almost impossible for me to stop after one. I mean, I'm already thinking about the second glass mid-way through the first. Usually I'll stop by 4 glasses and I don't drink the night before I have to wake up early, make an appointment, work or go to class. The only problem is that I can't just have a drink, it needs to keep going until I'm a little more than buzzed or I feel somehow unsatisfied?
    the second problem is that sometimes I drink for what is the wrong reason... such as stress. or wanting motivation to get things done. Oh and I don't do any other drugs.

    Basically I don't think I have a huge drinking problem. But tips so I can understand how to stop or pace myself while drinking would be helpful. Other insight and advice is most welcome.
  2. ashtar

    ashtar Well-Known Member

    Yes hun, it is a slight drinking problem. You need to make a log book for all your drinking so that you can see how much you are actually drinking. I had a similar problem and it stopped when I went cold turkey! I just forced myself not to drink for a few days and afterwards the need was less strong. I'm not sure if it work for you. All the advice that I can offer is go to your GP and talk to them about it. They will tell you how to handle it the best way...
    My GP told me to go to aa meetings even though my drinking problem wasnt really an issue and it really helped.
  3. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    It happened again this weekend... I drank too much at once. Sake bombs followed by straight sake. I had to throw up :-/.

    And then yesterday I had gin and juice and two shots turned into six. But I just get in the space where I want something to step out of my own head. I want something to change how I feel even if I feel nothing. I want to feel motivated but it just makes me depressed. I won't go to a 12 step because I know enough about that to opt out, plus binge drinking at most once a week does not warrant the BS that comes with AA. How can I learn to drink just 1 or two without getting to 6 within a couple of hours? Its turning me into an alcorexic just a bit because I'll exercise and eat almost nothing in the days following so that I don't gain weight. This type of drinking occurs maybe once a week, no more than that. Halp.
  4. FBD

    FBD Well-Known Member

    Maybe if you buy smaller amounts? Like buy a 6 pack instead of a 24 or something, or buy the small bottle. Not having as much around might help you drink less....I'm not sure if it will, but its an idea
  5. VALIS

    VALIS Well-Known Member

    Thx for the advice. I don't tend to drink alone though. I was hanging out with friends on the night of the sake bomb incident, so I really don't have much control of how much they buy for 7 people to drink....

    Plus I'm smaller than the other drinkers and don't eat very much so it hits me harder. But I feel like it's "ok" to match them drink for drink. ::sigh:: it's such a stupid cycle. I intend to show self control and then drink a substance that makes me lose inhibition... I gave up all alcohol for several months and didn't regret it. I guess maybe I'll just continue the cycle of not drinking and then binge-ing because it's the closest thing to control I have right now :-?
  6. icequeen

    icequeen Well-Known Member

    hey hun..i too struggle with drinking way too much..but i am not a binge drinker its 7 days a week for me. i started drinking to numb my pain, first the odd glass and in the space of 12 months it has me in its in grip. you obv feel you have a prob as you posted here, so see your doc...get help before it gets out of hand. alc is the silent demon that slowly and silently takes control and by the time you realise it, its too late you are in its grasp! dont treat your problem lightly, its not always wise to go cold turkey, but please talk to your doc and see if there is a programme you can join or follow.
    good luck :hug:
  7. anarulesmenow

    anarulesmenow Well-Known Member

    Diagnostic criteria isn't always right, all that matters is if it is making your/your life uncomfortable or harder.
  8. OrbitalPoet

    OrbitalPoet Active Member

    This was the hardest bit for me. To beat the booze, (and smoking), I had to change my life around to make sure I didn't get into the situations that led to my drinking. That's really hard, because you will find people among your 'close friends', who are not interested in knowing you if you are not drinking with them. But you gotta realise, they do not have your best interests at heart. Actually, as I found out, there are people who use you as an excuse to drink. I had a couple of those. Sure, I still look back on those times, and some of them were fun, but I don't wish it had been any different. Binge drinking is not a 'safe' form of drinking.
    My biggest trigger to stop drinking was an incident on a pushbike, back when there was no such thing as a 'riding drunk' law where I lived, it was a loophole, so we used to get to the pub and home on pushies. We were riding home very early one Saturday morning, just at sunup, and went through an industrial area where there was a lot of construction. I was riding, with a mate, Paul, on the handlebars. I don't want to gore the place up with details, so let's just say we met a cement truck with a tired driver, I survived, and Paul didn't.
    The worst bit was being told it wasn't my fault.
    While I don't go out much anymore (for other reasons than not drinking), I did for a while after stopping drinking, and I would be the 'designated driver', which actually worked out well. It meant I had a good reason for not drinking at all, and the people I was driving would stick up for me if I was hassled for not drinking.
    Not sure if any of this helps, but if you can kick the booze, it will be one of the best things you can do for yourself, ever.

  9. peacelovingguy

    peacelovingguy Well-Known Member

    A good tactic is not to ever drink at home. This can be difficult I know if you are not one for going out - also, its quite pricey in some areas to go out and beer is cheaper than water in some shops.

    Many I know will buy a bottle or a few cans and have a drink at home before going out and thereby only having to buy a few drinks. Be sure to tell anyone in a 'round' that your already topped up and are drinking lightly. Tell em you have taken pain killers perhaps.

    To Orbital poet - I'm sure your mate Paul knew the risks and you would have happily got on the bike if he was pedalling. I've done silly things drunk that could easily have ended in tragedy - a young man who lives near me is still in a coma in hospital, and if he wakes it will be to the news that he will not be walking again.

    You say this other driver hit you - and by the sounds of it any of the two of you might have died. Its a terrible thing but you've accepted more than enough blame in your own guilt and your mate would not want you to live that way I'm sure.

    You done the right thing afterwards also. Designated drivers are a Godsend.

    We call the jockeys in my area and protect them if any idiot tries to throw drink down them. Great way of socialising and not having the pressure of having to drink. Good move!

    Only thing is - drunk people when sober - well, I guess you'd do it for a friend.
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