Drinking to feel confident

Discussion in 'Self Harm & Substance Abuse' started by Aurora Gory Alice, Mar 19, 2009.

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  1. Aurora Gory Alice

    Aurora Gory Alice Well-Known Member

    I never thought I had a real drinking problem, even now I still don't really want to say I do, but I drink just so I can be around people!
    When my friends or anybody invites me out, I need a couple of drinks first just to be able to see them, same with family gatherings or anything. Going to them sober makes me feel like I want to have an anxiety attack, so I either avoid them altogether or have a drink.

    I once even had a couple of drinks before a job interview and a driving lesson.

    I've since calmed down quite a lot but I still don't feel as though I can socialise and be this fun person without having a drink first. Otherwise I feel like no-one will like me or enjoy my company and I'll just be this boring quiet individual instead of little miss fun and outgoing.

    The only problem is, lately when I've agreed to come out for an evening things have gotten out of hand, and I'll get so drunk I'll almost pass out or I'll make a total fool of myself, but I feel like if I don't drink when I'm with them, I'd never see them.
    Does anybody else feel like this?
  2. Zurkhardo

    Zurkhardo Well-Known Member

    I don't drink so I can't relate, but I do know many close friends who are in the exact same predicament. In fact, I theorize that most people are like this in general. Some people even exaggerate their inebriation just so they can behave unhibitedly and have alcohol as an excuse.

    Though it may seem like an obvious I think they root cause of this is lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. Do you feel those issues apply to you?
  3. jameslyons

    jameslyons Well-Known Member

    I'm right there with you. I don't feel comfortable at all until I get my first drink. A slight touch of alcohol and all that nervous energy fades away into a more relaxed state. The problem, as you well know, is when the first drink becomes the "firss.st rdink...*hiccup* I swearr...."

    My sister taught me a great trick : 1 glass alcohol, 1 glass non-alcoholic, 1 glass alcohol.

    Try to keep your drink count down. My father would suggest no drinks, but he's going the AA route of managing drinking.
  4. perry_mason

    perry_mason Well-Known Member

    yeah i can understand all that.

    the way i see it is that i do it for a confidence boost, the problem is knowing when to stop (or knowing when not to drink at all)

    however with me nobody likes me sober or drunk but i need to be drunk so i am able to have the nerves to see them.
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