Kath I know you are worried about her, you know I never lie to you, it will upset her because she will loose someone she loves, it always hurts, but you know that I love you deeply and struggled to talk about it with you, but at least I know that you will be at peace and safe.
Have you thought about typing her a letter, for her now or for afterwards? It might help you.
And once again a reminder, if you change your mind its never too late to ask for help.
I love you Kath. xx