I'm not sure what to do in this situation. I have an older sister who is always at odds with my parents. It's always usually tense at home as any sort of confrontation between my parents and sis tends to go nuclear. Anyways my sis is going through this thing where she was to find a guy and get married. Of course, you're probably wondering what is wrong with that? Well, we're a muslim family and guys and girls don't date, so the only plausible option is an arranged marriage of some sort. Anyways, my family can't exactly set my sis up with somebody as we're socially inept people. That's what running a business that sucks a family's time and resources for about 7 to 8 years can do to a family. Anyways my sis is in her late 20s and in muslim/brown standards, her ship set sail quite a few years ago in terms of when the right age is to marry. Well, she's tried these islamic matchmaker sessions with no luck so I think she may be venturing out to actually seeing some guy. That's a big NO NO in our culture, community, religion. I mean I wouldn't have really suspected anything. I just came by my sis's computer one day and she was frantically trying to hide her e-mail from me. What I managed to catch a glimpse of was her typing e-mails back and forth with her old boss from where she used to work. Now I knew she had a crush on this guy, but I thought it was just a crush. I mean we all have crushes right? I was scared it was escalating. Anyways, one morning, in the middle of the night, I wanted to use my laptop and it was in my sis' room. So I decided to help myself to it. She was sleep as was everyone at home. To my surprise she forgot to log off her e-mail and staring in front of my was here correspondence with her boss. I should have probably closed it or logged out but the way she was acting strange lately compelled me to open it and read. And I read it all through only to realize that she contacted him and was really trying to come on to this guy. She's quite good with words so the wording was very suggestive. She wanted to meet him and it was clear from the e-mail that it was for more than a catch up session or something. Anyways, he had suggested they meet up on Thursday, which happens to be today. I never had the opportunity to see whether they decided to go ahead and meet up today or where they would meet. All I noticed was that today my sister was out of the house the entire day. Claiming she had a meeting and the gym to go to after work. When she came home I saw she was wearing her "nicer" looking jacket. My parents are of course suspicious and worried about why she went out for so long. When my mom picked me up from the train station today, she went to the gym parking lot to see whether my sister's car was parked there to confirm she actually did go to the gym. Now, I know this is going to sound really jerkish and careless. I've really sort of withdrawn from my family. I prefer to stay at work later cause I don't like home, I'll even work later than other people. This is a job I dislike btw. Since I read the e-mail I've really stopped talking to my sis. It's too weird for me. Oh and if my parents ever found out that she was truly up to something, this would rip my family apart. Especially my dad, he would explode. He's really into what other people in the community would think and how the family image would be scarred if other people find out. I personally don't care if my sis does like this guy adn whatever. I mean I know it sounds wrong, but I've always wished I had a girlfriend and was close to someone, I'd be an idiot to think she didn't feel the same way. If I wasn't such a social misfit I think I would have been serious with someone right now. Should I even deny her that. However, if she did, this family is toast. As we are already pretty unstable I don't think I or this family could tolerate much more stability. Our lives are already shit, this would potentially make things shittier. I'd prefer not to get involved, but I dunno. I really don't have anyone else to confide in or ask for advice. What do you think? What would you do? Thanks for reading if you did stick till the end.