eating disorder?

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by needhelp, Oct 27, 2006.

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  1. needhelp

    needhelp Guest

    I've a friend that has told me about how seeing or just thinking about food makes her feel sick. She's pretty skinny and eats very little. She has said that she feels pressure to be skinny and she's also extremely insecure about her physical appearance. She constantly compares herself to other people her age and often celebritites/models. I've been thinking she may have some sort of problem but she insists that she's fine. Can anyone relate to this in any way? Do you think she might have a problem? Is there anything I can do? I'm just really concerned. I don't know much about eating disorders so any input would be greatly appreciated.
     
  2. fading_dreams

    fading_dreams Well-Known Member

    it sounds like an eating disorder to me. but i'm not an expert in this or anything. i know that it's one of the hardest things to do, but i think the best thing for her would be to have someone to talk to... not necessarily a counselor or anyone... it could even be you. just listen to her. if she needs to let out some of the things that are bothering her then maybe she will feel less stressed and pressured. you could try eating lunch with her in school, if you're in school, and just make sure that she's eating.... it's not going to be easy. she's not going to pig out on the first day, but just encourage her to eat a little more and then a little more... good luck with everything!!
    fading_dreams
     
  3. Allo..

    Allo.. Well-Known Member

    Fading dreams is so right. My best friend was bulimic and my old best friend sounds the same as your friend. Some of the things i was suggested to do was just to be there for her, talk to her, ask how how she was and if she didnt say good to ask whats wrong and just listen.. then say what you think about it. Another is to bring lunch (if your in school) to school that she will enjoy and let her pick at it and whenever she asks or looks like she wants some give it to her without hesitation, but dont let yourself not eat. Bring a big lunch, or osmething extra, so you both have food. Sometimes its not the eating, but the dislike for the food they have.

    If your friend keeps going down (again assuming you are in school) you could go the the school counsellor and tell them your worried about them but you want to keep this confidential, thats what my friend had happen to her. She was really pissed off but it was good for her. The Counsellor wont say anything about you telling her if you ask her not to, and even if you forget to say that. If she asks you to go to her appointment with her then go with no hesitation =)

    Goodluck! Im here if you want to talk x
     
  4. needhelp

    needhelp Guest

    Thanks for the input, I really do appreciate it. I'll try some of those ideas out. Hopefully I can help her.
     
  5. Style

    Style Well-Known Member

    I can provide some input on the subject. I was borderline annorexic for a little bit. I say borderline because I would eat, just not the full amount of meals, etc.

    Then someone explained to me that eventually I would not lose anymore weight, but maybe even gain some because of how the body stores things when it isn't getting enough food. With this little piece of information, they were able to convince me to pick up a healthy eating habit thrown in with a little bit of exercise.

    Also about the celebrity thing. You can explain a couple of things.

    1. a lot of thin celebrities actually do eat. but they either have good genes, high metabolism, and a personal trainer.

    2. those pictures you see in magazines are usually photoshopped and are not an accurate representation of how they would look in real life.

    This one is a little bit extreme, but it helped me realize how serious not eating is, someone told me that I would be dead before I felt I was thin enough.
     
  6. needhelp

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    One more question. Whenever the topic of an eating disorder comes up, and she's usually the one who brings it up, she always asks me if I believe her when she says she's fine. I don't, but I say I do. I really don't know if I should tell her that I don't believe her. Should I tell her what I really think? Or should I keep my mouth shut?
     
  7. I hated people telling me I wasn't fine and that I was unhealthy. It's not until you start fainting regularly that you start to realize that maybe you went to far but by then you can't stop. It doesn't matter what anyone says so be careful because she'll end up getting mad at you and isolating herself from everyone. Well, if she's anything like me she will. I ended up running away.
     
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