Egocantrism

[goliath]

I've had a really really bad time for a couple of days. I feel deflated. I have only realized that the problem with myself is that I'm so self-centred. Egoistical. No matter what's going on around, my problems (which in fact are imaginary) are the most important and the biggest. Is it the first step to being cured? Is that it that we suffer from depression because we are egoistical and only see and care about our little problems? I have never been to psychiatrist before but I would love to hear from people who suffer from sepression and been to specialist. Could you fill me in a littlr on that matter?
Lots of love:smile:

 

[abcdeeeehmmost]

ive been to the so called specialist... and I came away with the feeling this guy wanted to blame all my problems on others, first I should leave my wife. then my parents where the problem in his eyes... To me it was funny the problem sat in his chair and recived no help...no help... for some deperesion is a chemical imblance that sometimes and be corrected with meds... and sometimes they keep tring differnt meds until they hope to find the magical combation or dosage... for others i have met the loss or tragrdy set them off into depression, for some of these they can get some help with meds but also techinacs to control thier enviroment, or learn just to have fun again... interesting thought to have fun again, when is the last time you had fun?

 

[amee]

It's less self-absorbed than practical.

You're hurt, not them. If you were well and they were hurt, you'd probably be concerned about taking care of them, ne? But it isn't that way, you are hurt and you need healing and trying to take care of others when you're the hurt one wouldn't make any sense.

Your loved ones will probably get quite upset seeing you this way and not knowing what to do. All you can do about that is take them into consideration, care, and explain your situation as lovingly as possible.

A psychiatrist did once explain it pretty eloquently: Imagine you're in a parking lot and the lady in the car next to you has a dead car battery. You offer to give her a jump, take out the jumper cables, open up both hoods, hook up, get in your driver's seat, turn your car key ... But your battery's dead, too.

You need to take care of your own battery first. That doesn't make you a villain.

--A