Escort Service Advice/Re-edited

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Righteous, Jan 5, 2009.

  1. Righteous

    Righteous Well-Known Member

    Ok sorry about the way I posted this thread the last time. It didn't offend anyone or nothing it's just that I didn't post it right according 2 the rules. So here it is again re-done.

    I am through with "normal" girls 4 the time being. Since my money has gotten better, now all I deal with is escorts(which basically is a legal way 2 be a prostitute). Every once in a while I might get fortunate 2 catch a drunk horny girl in a bar, but mainly my sexual pleasure comes from escorts. Up until now, I have been dealing with attractive street walking prostitutes, but I don't want 2 deal with street-walkers anymore because they don't seem 2 care about getting sexual diseases. Escorts appear 2 have more decency with their method of selling their bodies.

    I don't want 2 deal with "normal" girls any more, well kind of. I believe that 90% of "normal" girls are evil. U see, I am sick and tired of the mind games that these "normal" girls play. All they do is waste your time and ruin your chance of getting with a true good girl. At least prostitutes and escorts are honest about what they do. Escorts don't try 2 lead u on and sell u a dream.
    I'll explain more about this in another thread.

    My question 2 u guys is Do you feel that this is right? I mean u gotta understand my bad luck with girlfriends. My life options are a)Waste my time in some phony relationship which will be all good 4 the first few weeks or months and then go downhill because of some BS the girl is gonna make up, b) Be lonely forever, or c)Deal with honest women like escorts so I can at least be sexually satisfied. Right now I'm living with option c)

    Another thing, Have any of u ever had a girl from a escort service? How was the experience, and was it worth the money? Do any of u know of which are the best escort services around Arkansas and Memphis?

    By the way, I am not promoting anything illegal because prostitution is legal in some states plus if a girl is a escort, she's not doing anything illegal because business wise she is being paid 4 time spent with her, if she wants 2 have sex with u, that's her choice. But their are still some people who feel that this is illegal.

    Any advice on my lifestyle will gladly be appreciated.
  2. ket93

    ket93 Well-Known Member

    OK I know you are asking for a guys opinion here, but I could not resist...
    First, I would just like to say that I personally do not believe that selling your body for sex is decent in any way, shape or form, whether you are calling yourself a prostitute or a escort. I know what you are saying meaning maybe escorts are more decent as far as protecting themselves from diseases, etc. But still we are talking about essentially the same act: selling your body!

    OK I will get off my soap box on that... I think that maybe for the time being if you feel the way you feel about most women being evil, then maybe you should only be with escorts... but just in my humble opinion... I do believe there are decent women out there... including myself... that have been through bad relationships too, just like you have... and that feel the same way about men... I know not all men are assholes, but in the same way you feel, after you have been burned so many times, you start to believe that no matter what is the truth...
    I am not aware of all the facts here, such as your previous history with women, your age, or any other factors... but I can say this... If you stay with escorts, there is a pretty good chance you will not meet your future wife! I am not saying it won't happen (Pretty women... yes it was a movie but who knows, you could meet her! :) )
    But I really feel you need to evaluate your situation a little better and really look at why you feel the way you do about women that has made you want to turn to this option, and maybe look at past relationships and try to figure out what really happened, were the women all just evil? Or was there mis-communication problems? etc...
    I believe that everyone should be with that someone special to share their life with if that is what they really want... and it sounds like you do want someone but maybe have just given up?
    IDK, I could be completely wrong in my observation?
    JUST MY 2 CENTS!! :)
  3. Righteous

    Righteous Well-Known Member

    Every relationship was perfect in the beginning of the relationships and I'm 24
  4. ket93

    ket93 Well-Known Member

    Well I do not know the situation of each of those relationships, but it is proven that almost ALL relationships are "perfect" in the beginning few months... there is that period of bliss... the honeymoon phase... I did not realize this for a long time and thought it was something wrong with me and my relationships because they would start out good, at least most of them, but then go downhill very fast, after a few months..
    Here is the thing that I am learning and starting to realize after much experience with relationships... it is quote simple... as bad as it sounds... they are WORK!! I know that no one likes to think of a relationship as work, but that is the truth of it... at least from where I stand and what I have been through... I know others that have said this too, so I dont think I am the only one that feels this way.
    Granted it will be LESS work when you find the right one... but there is still going to be some problems here and there... the issue is HOW you handle the problems.
    Believe me, I went through 2 very short BAD relationships very young, then a somewhat long relationship with my ex husband, then a almost year long relationship after that ... and now I have been with someone, who I feel is the ONE, and we have been together almost a year... we have had our share of ups and downs, but regardless, we do love each other, at least I believe we do. And I think that we can somehow work through anything...
    Now that is a lot different than how I felt just a week ago about things when I first joined here... But now I do feel better about things and about us.
    You are still pretty young, and I would say that for that reason you should not be too alarmed about not finding the ONE yet, if that IS what you are really looking for... I am older now, although not OLD! :) and I feel like sometimes it does take a little longer to find the one we should be with... I feel like I had to go through all the bad to get to where I am and what made me who I am today.... so it all works out in the end!
  5. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    There are too many dangers involved withthis I believe. What is the likelihood of catching an STD or HIV or other diseases that can be transmitted by bodily fluids? Do the math. remember that each partner they have been with has now technically been with you. And each of those partners partners. You do not know the health of each of those individuals and neither does your escort. It is not worth the risk in my opinion.
  6. ket93

    ket93 Well-Known Member

    I would agree 110% with that.. just the risk factor alone would be enough for me not to want this...
  7. CrowsCounted

    CrowsCounted Member

    personally I dont have a big problem with escort services and the like, although i have never used one and might feel differently if i had. prostitution has existed in ways sense we were drawing on cave walls, and i dont think its going to stop anytime soon either. i feel that we would be alot better off if we just legalized, regulated, and taxed it like any other service. escort services already do this in a way. dont get me wrong i wouldnt encourage any women to pick it up, but i also wouldnt encourage someone to work in a coal mine. If we accept that someone is going to work in the coal mine whether we like it or not, we might as well make the coal mine as safe as possible for them. i understand that many feel that it is degrading to women, and i think it just depends on your perspective. I dont feel that it is inherently wrong to have sex for a reason other than love and procreation.surely sex with someone you love is in my opinion worth much more, but such things are a luxury which many including myself do not have. I have actually found that during periods of frequent sexual contact in my life, my perspective of the opposite gender has become more clear. As a man, when i am having sex frequently i am not worried about having sex. Some of the natural drive i feel to constantly see women as sexual beings washes away a little and you can focus seeing who they really are. On the other hand, i have had sex with a person I neither liked nor was particularly attracted to just to have sex and get that stress out. It didnt work and in the end I just felt worse than I did before. I guess it just depends on how YOU feel about it really. I would suggest that you tread carefully though. A good balance may be a good idea. Not having sexual contact at all for long periods of time can be depressing, but having it all the time just to have it may condition you to lose your interest in it altogether. I would suggest that you keep fishing for a "normal" girl who may fall in that 10% of the not crazy ones:smile:
  8. CrowsCounted

    CrowsCounted Member

    ditto on the health concerns though, im sure your using protection but you still have to be so careful.....thats probably the biggest reason i could see to stop what your doing, and it is a big one.
  9. Righteous

    Righteous Well-Known Member

    I feel what u guys are saying about the health issues, but I kind of live my life based on the philosophy of 2-Face from Batman(although I am not evil). 2-Face says in life, your future situations are as simple as the flip of a coin, heads u win, tails u lose. There's only a 50/50 chance of every situation. I'm just hoping as far as sexual diseases go, the coin keeps on landing in my favor.

    Actually, when I was suicidal, I once hoped 2 catch AIDS so I can have an unavoidable death because u know, if u got a gun in your hand or pills in your hand u can always put them down and change your mind. AIDS is a guaranteed death. However, I'm not suicidal now since prostitutes make me feel better and I hope I don't have AIDS(Key Note: Prostitutes are not my sole purpose of no longer being suicidal, there are other factors as well but I'll talk about those in another thread)

    Now u might think that my view of life is crazy, but think about it, I wouldn't have 2 worry about getting a prostitute if I had the good luck of winning a "coin toss" and getting a good girlfriend.
  10. soliloquise

    soliloquise Well-Known Member

    i don't really have an issue with prostitution ( i am female ) what concerns me if your general attitude to women. maybe you have just been v unlucky, but not every woman out there is bad news and neither is one person solely to blame for relationships going wrong. you are blaming the women for everything. what went wrong in your previous relationships and is there a pattern. i think if you see women are only sexual objects any relationship is doomed

    most of the dangers re: prostitution result from it being illegal and underground. if you are going to be with them use a condom always. ultimately a prostitute/escort will not fulfill your need for companionship.
  11. Dave_N

    Dave_N Guest

    Maybe I'm just cheap, but I don't think I will ever be able to pay a woman for sex. Plus the risk of contracting and STD is too high I think.
  12. Righteous

    Righteous Well-Known Member

    Ok, let me see how 2 sum my relationship stories up. In one relationship, me and this girl started off as just friends and sex partners. Everyhing was all good then. One night we were smoking a certain herbal plant with one of her homegirls at he homegirl's house and we got high, my sex partener noticed that I was staring at her homegirl's butt every time she passed me and went 2 da kitchen.(On a side note, my sex partner had big boobs and her homegirl had a big butt). I didn't think anything was wrong because we were not offiacialy in a relationship. We got into a long argument and she starts talking about her feelings for me and since I liked her so much I made her my girlfriend since that was the only way 2 keep her in my life. So I kind of feel like I was tricked into a relationship. I don't start relationships unless I know I'm ready because if u rush, things can easily go bad.

    Not only that, but the girl's lame brothers ended up losing their apartment(she was also living there) because they would let their homeboys an relatives come over and make up noise so much to wear they got 10 notices and got kicked out. She could of stayed with one of her guardians(her parents are dead) but she insisted on staying with me. I didn't want this 2 happen because I felt like we were too young for such a thing and plus couples may argue a lot more if they stay with each other. So basically she tried 2 make it seem that the only way for me to keep her in my life was if I let her move in. And me being nice and foolish, I let her stay with me. And that's where I made one of the biggest mistakes in my life.

    Argument after argument kept popping up and I got distracted from my career goals. Our last argument was so bad that I had 2 lock her out of my apartment late one night and the next day she left. When she was locked out I didn't care if she got raped, robbed or whatever. If u knew the whole story u would understand.

    So some of u may say, "Well isn't some of this, my own fault?" And my answer is yes. I'm am being a man and admitting that it is my fault that I wasn't dealing with prostitutes a long time ago. If I was dealing with prostitutes and not falling 4 the lies people told me about prostitutes being evil, my bad relationships would have never happened.

    I'll tell u guys about another relationship later.
  13. Dave_N

    Dave_N Guest

    Interesting story Righteous. I look forward to reading about your other relationships.
  14. Alexpt2

    Alexpt2 Well-Known Member

    Yeah, thats why it went bad, cause you rushed into it. I'm sure it had nothing to do with the fact that both of you were high when the relationship officially started :laugh:

    At least now you're free to go after the homegirl with the big booty.
  15. soliloquise

    soliloquise Well-Known Member

  16. Summer.Rain

    Summer.Rain Well-Known Member

    Well first of all, i want to say that prostitution is completly normal!
    The only reson why it have such a bad image is becouse the christian
    church says it wrong, yet another way thay want to take over the world with.
    Second thing is the dessieses issue, i had sex only once in my life but apperntly
    im not that lucky becouse i got herpies :X
    But well as far as i know lots of people got it anyways so i dont worry about it
    Anyways i completly support your dessision

    And one last thing, girls are not evil, the trick is to learn to undarstand them
    becouse there is reson why people say that girls and boys are from 2 diffrent
    planets, girls are diffrent in many ways, with diffrent views on the reallity
    If we look on the evolution theory, then all girls are care about is
    to find a partner who is healthy and wealthy, not becouse thay want sexy
    guy and big house but becouse health shows that the guy got good genes
    which is important for feauture kids, and wealth is important becouse
    the girl must be sure her kids willl have a good chances in life with
    good and rich childhood and good education and healthcare.

    I support the evolution theory completly so sexual need is normal too
    by nature mens perpuse in life is to make as many babys as possible
    with as many girls as possible, but becouse christianity took over most of the
    world we stuck with 1 girl forever, and becouse the pressent time demands
    us to always work or study, we cant usally have more then 1\2 kids...
    and it against our nature!!!!!!!!!!
  17. Mightbehere

    Mightbehere Well-Known Member

    Some of those escorts are incredibly hot!!! and its nice to have a professional in the sack. Also you don't have to worry about STD's as much then a 'normal' girl because sex workers know what they are doing and the dangers...plenty of girls sleep around...probably more then the escorts that are getting And its also so much quicker and why should you pretend to like someone if you just want sex...then go to someone and pay for it.

    LOL so not'll find just about all the religions say only one wife..its only in a few cercumstances that you can have more then one in a few of the different religions..Islam you can have up to four IF you can support them.
  18. Summer.Rain

    Summer.Rain Well-Known Member

    Well thats what im saying -.-
  19. BH Manners

    BH Manners Member

    You can have up to 4 but have to be able to treat them all equally.
  20. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    That's a pretty ignorant view. Prostitution was widely accepted all over Europe from the ancient Greek era until about the 16th century. It was banned due to the arrival of syphilis.

    Please stop blaming the Roman Catholic church for all of society's ills. :)