Everybody has a goal,that one dream,don't they?

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  1. TheDayThatNeverComes

    TheDayThatNeverComes Active Member

    I've been wondering about depression.Let me say 1st of all,I'm not depressed.I was once but now I'm ok.I got ok by having started working towards fulfilling my goals in life.I am feeling a lot better now because I know I'm moving in the right direction instead of doing nothing and going nowhere,because that was the worst feeling.Now,that this is no rocket science,I started wondering why are there so many people who are depressed,is there really no goal to achieve,no aspiration to pursue for them? Everyone knows doing what you want to do in life makes you happy.Is it possible not to have that one dream,not to want anything?
     
  2. total eclipse

    total eclipse SF Friend Staff Alumni

    Depression in its deepest form takes away all the want all the hope hun that is why sometimes a therapist can help medication can help to pull them out of that deepest darkness so they can dream again hugs
     
  3. liamthomas

    liamthomas Member

    Depression is very very real. For some it is a mental state of mind, but for most it is a chemical imbalance that has to be dealt with, I believe the toxins in our food, water, and environment are largely to blame. We take pharmaceutical poisons to remedy the dietary poisons. I think life's problems compound depression but don't cause depression.
     
  4. TheDayThatNeverComes

    TheDayThatNeverComes Active Member

    Its actually scary to think that the toxins can do sthg like that to you.
     
  5. Solstadius

    Solstadius Member

    Sometimes it seems to me that these people make it harder for themselves who take fixed goals or dreams to go. There's so much distraction in life and with all that time we are learning when time keeps moving. I think it's more about the process.
    I've been on so much pressure and wanted only one thing to save me but when the time came I realized even if I did get there I would still need to work with that thing on the next level too or it fades away and there really isn't the place to vanish for peace...well there is but it's the process itself it seems to me. But as I was so much in pain and distracted by the outcome before I could get there it did fade away.
    I can't explain well what I mean as I can't manage English that well. Goals are actually good things but you can get for them better if you take process itself as the thing you want.
    Example I always wanted to learn to draw but I was locked with expectations. To really get there it takes some good trials and errors so I learned to enjoy just doing some simple sketching firstly. Drawing some easy things like shapes and bottles or something. And as I started enjoying that very slowly going process my expectations actually faded away. I learned that there's no thing where to get. Everyone has it's own way and handwriting.
    I know this is not only in art this way it's everywhere like that. There's no need to compare yourself with others but with your own qualities first of all. Because when I stopped throwing away papers with some childish scribbles just because they didn't look like from someone truly gifted and started following my own path I learned to love myself more. I refused of work of my own before and it was the thing that kept me away from valuable life.
    It all should work out if you do things what you like. I mean. Don't go to university just because it gives you better position by sociality or gives a well paid job.
    From what I've seen all the happy people just do whatever they feel they should and by going this way life offers many bright things.
    Example almost all of us want somebody close to us. Many people think they'll find it by doing things which are well predicted by society and parents and with better position there are better chances for it to come through but then there's people who really don't know what they want doing just what they like and life brings them together with people with similar interests and likeable thinking and so on and to they surprise they realise one day that it's going pretty well. Gravelly pain from heart is gone.

    I know it's hard to start especially people like many of us here but think maybe the whole system of school wasn't the thing for you you wanted but there was no chance for change in environment because parents didn't get or some other problems. It doesn't matter if it was like that let it go. There's always a hope if you're willing to take the chance.
     
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