I posted about this in the intro forum, but my wife and I are fighting far too often. And it usually goes like this - I either do something she doesn't like or fail to do something she expects me to do, and then something that starts off small turns into a huge meltdown. It can be anything. I have too many examples to list here. Suffice it to say, if she doesn't like something, she has to take it to the worst case extreme. Sometimes even when I do something good, she manages to turn it around and use it as an excuse to get mad. Like when I finished this quarter with 2 As and a B after having previous quarters where I failed classes and was on academic warning for two consecutive quarters. Instead of being happy for me, she said, "I told you you wouldn't manage taking classes while working! But you never listen to me!" (She did say she was proud of me in a different conversation, but the fact that she even uses my successes as an excuse to get mad really hurt.) Tonight I even googled "My wife thinks I can't do anything right," and I came across one link that described someone else in a situation where the wife treats her husband as if he can't do anything right, and they basically said she was being abusive. But what disturbed me is the solution they suggested. Divorce. Divorce is not okay. Suicide is preferable to divorce. I don't care who says I don't deserve to be treated this way, or that I would be better off divorced than married to someone who doesn't appreciate me, or that I'm only hurting myself by staying married to her (especially when she's threatened to divorce me repeatedly). I don't care how many people "bounce back" after divorce and start over again. There are also lots of people who get it right the first time - I'm trying to be one of them. If there really is someone out there who's better for me, why didn't I meet her 10 years ago? What, because "life doesn't work like that?" If life doesn't work, then that justifies suicide all the more. So what do I have to do to fix our marriage? What do I have to do to get the love back? What do I have to do to make our marriage one where we get it right the first time?