I don't know what to do. I think my ex might be suicidal. He's called me so many times this week at every hour uncontrollably sobing, has had a panic attack, been sent home from work because he can't get it together... he talks about not being able to handle the pain of me not being with him. I've told him I'm there for him and I care about him and that I support him and want to help him get better, but he says the only thing that will make him feel better is knowing that i'll get back together with him. I can't do that.
What happened is that we were together for over 2 years and it was rough - things were bad and now he's come to a "realization" about it all and feels guilty and it's as if everything has hit him at once and he says he can't go on without being given a chance to make it up to me and try again... He has looked into getting counselling, but it takes a while... and in the meantime he's calling me sobbing 11 times a night. I can't tell him what he wants to hear - that i promise to get back together with him in the future, once he works through all of this - but i can't go on with things the way they are because it's not healthy for either of us.
I've tried calling various help numbers to find out what i should do. But I almost think that the best thing would be to remove myself completely from the situation - maybe talking to me only just keeps opening the wound... but i don't want to make him think i'm abandoning him... i'm so confused and feel so trapped and guilty about all of this.
If anyone has experienced something similar to this or knows of a number to call that will actually help and tell you what to do please pass it on. I just want him to get better.
thanks for listening
What happened is that we were together for over 2 years and it was rough - things were bad and now he's come to a "realization" about it all and feels guilty and it's as if everything has hit him at once and he says he can't go on without being given a chance to make it up to me and try again... He has looked into getting counselling, but it takes a while... and in the meantime he's calling me sobbing 11 times a night. I can't tell him what he wants to hear - that i promise to get back together with him in the future, once he works through all of this - but i can't go on with things the way they are because it's not healthy for either of us.
I've tried calling various help numbers to find out what i should do. But I almost think that the best thing would be to remove myself completely from the situation - maybe talking to me only just keeps opening the wound... but i don't want to make him think i'm abandoning him... i'm so confused and feel so trapped and guilty about all of this.
If anyone has experienced something similar to this or knows of a number to call that will actually help and tell you what to do please pass it on. I just want him to get better.
thanks for listening