Yes this is a vent, nothing more. But I need to get it out. I need to know that I still count. Or if everything has turned out just the way it always does?
There are certain people in my life that I have come to love and depend on greatly of late. Promises were made that I took and believed with my heart. Words were said that I let settle within me and they gave me such comfort. Comfort in knowing that I would not be alone anymore. Where are they? Where are those people, promises and words?
I'm in such a dark place right now. And I keep telling myself so are those other people too. I need to believe that. Because if I dont then the only other thing to believe is that once again the promises were nothing. Like they always end up being. And I am just a stupid ass for letting myself believe. And guilty of once again hurting myself by believing people liked me for me.
I have always been and always will be there for people when they need me. I'm there no matter how I am or where my mind is. I need to help others as a way to help myself. I need to feel like I am actually making someone elses burdens a little more easier to carry.
But I need someone now. So I call and leave messages. I text. I email. Nothing. And it makes me feel like I'm nothing. Maybe that's my biggest mistake. I let myself think I'm important to others. That I can atleast make them giggle for a few seconds when their world is crashing around them. No matter what time or what Im doing I'm there for others. And I stick it out til I hear that little giggle. God I'm walking on clouds then. When I know someone else through my stupid sense of humor or silliness has had one little giggle. And then I'm there for the next time they need me again. Why? Because I know too well how much I need the same thing. Just to have someone that cares take the time to listen for a few minutes and try to lighten my spirits just a teeny weeny bit. No big words of wisdom. No solutions to my problems. Just someone who cares to listen when I need them.
But since my last attempt, they, except one, have all disappeared. And that really hurts. That after all we have been through together I'm not worth a quick email message or text line or a quick call to say "hey just so busy right now but wanted to let you know I still care." One brave soul is still there. But he isnt in a position that we can call each other very easily. But we email regularly. And this morning while I struggled with the urges and was quickly assuring myself that today was to be my last..... my phone rang and it was him. My God it felt incredible to hear another voice. One that cares and understands. Not a professional or agency that only talks because they have to. A person that took a few minutes in a very hectic schedule to call and say "hey, I'm worried about you." After I hung up I cried, my whole body cried and really hasnt stopped yet. Not a sad cry but a relieving cry and a cry because someone out there thinks of me.
Dont others believe me or in me? Dont they believe when I say I'm there no matter what? That when I say I care, or love that it's unconditional? I doubt these things because others obviously doubt my word. My promises. Doubt me. And I should get angry. But I dont. I always turn it around to it having to be something I did or didnt say. Something I did or didnt do. Something. Me.
Then I read things saying they need someone. They've been left all alone. That they need to hear something reassuring because they are doing so badly right now. Each a slap in my face. Arent I someone? Havent I reassured over and over again I'm there no matter what? So I make the calls, emails and texts once again to have them fall into oblivion. No returns of any kind. And the "what did I do or not do's " again fill my head.
This isnt intended to guilt anyone. It's just my way of trying to figure out why? What did I do wrong? And maybe that if those other people are reading this and havent gotten in touch with me because they might feel guilty, my way of saying I'm still here. I'm sitting waiting for that call or email or text. I still care and love you. I'm here like I promised. Dont feel guilty or bad just let me know you are still there. I havent gone anywhere and still want those people in my life.
It has reassured one thing for me though. Something I should of stuck to when I said it to myself before. I am here to be used and abused. My ex was right. So I WILL NOT let anyone else into my heart again. Why hurt myself like that? Why give myself false hopes? Why do to myself what others regularly do for me?
Pathetic. That's me just pathetic. Guess the people I've come to rely on have realized it. They've moved on. Hell I'm trying to. But I keep fucking up my attempts. And am left with the after math alone and waiting for when I can attempt again. Cuz right now, honest to God it's all I have. Me, myself and I. And they are all hurting too much to do anything for me at all.
There are certain people in my life that I have come to love and depend on greatly of late. Promises were made that I took and believed with my heart. Words were said that I let settle within me and they gave me such comfort. Comfort in knowing that I would not be alone anymore. Where are they? Where are those people, promises and words?
I'm in such a dark place right now. And I keep telling myself so are those other people too. I need to believe that. Because if I dont then the only other thing to believe is that once again the promises were nothing. Like they always end up being. And I am just a stupid ass for letting myself believe. And guilty of once again hurting myself by believing people liked me for me.
I have always been and always will be there for people when they need me. I'm there no matter how I am or where my mind is. I need to help others as a way to help myself. I need to feel like I am actually making someone elses burdens a little more easier to carry.
But I need someone now. So I call and leave messages. I text. I email. Nothing. And it makes me feel like I'm nothing. Maybe that's my biggest mistake. I let myself think I'm important to others. That I can atleast make them giggle for a few seconds when their world is crashing around them. No matter what time or what Im doing I'm there for others. And I stick it out til I hear that little giggle. God I'm walking on clouds then. When I know someone else through my stupid sense of humor or silliness has had one little giggle. And then I'm there for the next time they need me again. Why? Because I know too well how much I need the same thing. Just to have someone that cares take the time to listen for a few minutes and try to lighten my spirits just a teeny weeny bit. No big words of wisdom. No solutions to my problems. Just someone who cares to listen when I need them.
But since my last attempt, they, except one, have all disappeared. And that really hurts. That after all we have been through together I'm not worth a quick email message or text line or a quick call to say "hey just so busy right now but wanted to let you know I still care." One brave soul is still there. But he isnt in a position that we can call each other very easily. But we email regularly. And this morning while I struggled with the urges and was quickly assuring myself that today was to be my last..... my phone rang and it was him. My God it felt incredible to hear another voice. One that cares and understands. Not a professional or agency that only talks because they have to. A person that took a few minutes in a very hectic schedule to call and say "hey, I'm worried about you." After I hung up I cried, my whole body cried and really hasnt stopped yet. Not a sad cry but a relieving cry and a cry because someone out there thinks of me.
Dont others believe me or in me? Dont they believe when I say I'm there no matter what? That when I say I care, or love that it's unconditional? I doubt these things because others obviously doubt my word. My promises. Doubt me. And I should get angry. But I dont. I always turn it around to it having to be something I did or didnt say. Something I did or didnt do. Something. Me.
Then I read things saying they need someone. They've been left all alone. That they need to hear something reassuring because they are doing so badly right now. Each a slap in my face. Arent I someone? Havent I reassured over and over again I'm there no matter what? So I make the calls, emails and texts once again to have them fall into oblivion. No returns of any kind. And the "what did I do or not do's " again fill my head.
This isnt intended to guilt anyone. It's just my way of trying to figure out why? What did I do wrong? And maybe that if those other people are reading this and havent gotten in touch with me because they might feel guilty, my way of saying I'm still here. I'm sitting waiting for that call or email or text. I still care and love you. I'm here like I promised. Dont feel guilty or bad just let me know you are still there. I havent gone anywhere and still want those people in my life.
It has reassured one thing for me though. Something I should of stuck to when I said it to myself before. I am here to be used and abused. My ex was right. So I WILL NOT let anyone else into my heart again. Why hurt myself like that? Why give myself false hopes? Why do to myself what others regularly do for me?
Pathetic. That's me just pathetic. Guess the people I've come to rely on have realized it. They've moved on. Hell I'm trying to. But I keep fucking up my attempts. And am left with the after math alone and waiting for when I can attempt again. Cuz right now, honest to God it's all I have. Me, myself and I. And they are all hurting too much to do anything for me at all.