Does anyone else feel this? I feel it all the time, especially when it comes to my mother (whom I actually love a lot) ... I can't bear it sometimes. And my mother means well, I think, and she gave us all a great start in life but that just makes it worse... just intensifies the guilt that with all her efforts and all your opportunities you are still "failing" to become a functioning adult with success and all the rest of it. My phone has just rung and I can see it is my mother and I can't bear to pick it up, I can't bear to hear the slight nagging questions about whether I have found a house to live in (a better one than the one I am in, which she thinks is awful), what I have been doing, what I am thinking of doing, what steps I am taking - and so on and so forth. I am independent, I am not relying on my mother for cash but I am also extremely unsuccessful and failing in so many ways - she is not wrong about that and in a way not wrong to be worried about that. I just think she wants her daughter(s) not to be a 'worry' any more. And I can understand that but I wish she would just 'not worry'! Rather than try to fix us into a position that she thinks is suitable and acceptable. My mother is incredibly supportive in many ways but I just can't live up to her expectations and I feel such guilt and depression over it. If I were to get married and have children that might go some way to putting me in a box that she could feel happier about - but I don't want to get married or have children. I don't know what I want to do exactly but I don't want that... Guilt, guilt, guilt, guilt, guilt. When does it end? I am the master of making excuses and coming up with plausible explanations for my life and where I am with it and what I am doing with it. All nonsense - if I am to look at my life I am in total agreement with my mother, I am wasting it, I am doing nothing good with it, I am useless etc. etc. etc. I am not making enough effort, I am not taking on adult responsibilities, I am slouching towards the easy road because I am lazy and unselfdisciplined and irresponsible and childish and unambitious and dreamy and and oh I don't know..... it isn't bad enough just being a failure, we have to have the guilt accompanying it aswell!