:blink: how do you handle it and not come unglued when someone who is infatuated with you can't handle the reality that you can't be with them? i had to break off a relationship/friendship with someone who is infatuated with me, for several reasons and this person keeps talking death now.:sad: i tried to be very considerate of their feelings and break things off slowly and gently. they had wanted me to move in with them (immigrate to another country) and spend a lifetime in a romantic relationship. there are several reasons i cant at present: 1) i have a relative dying and my assistance is needed here 2) i have a child to think about, i can't take her with me as her custody is in a relatives care and they wont let me take her abroad to an unsure situation. i really dont want to leave my child behind and be thousands of miles away. not to mention one of the two relatives who's caring for her is the one who's dying. 3) i don't want to be a burden to this individual who wants me to move in with them. I am unable to work, even family is having a hard time (as a group) supporting me.let alone one sole individual who's already having financial issues. 4) deep down im in love with someone else.and it wouldnt be fair to this one to move there and end up coming back over all of these reasons. i feel guilty because this person is emotionally attatched to me, and i know it hurts them that im not coming after we planned it out. but things happened in my life (and heart) that couldnt be controlled. i don't want to be to blame for their suicide, ive done everything i can to be kind, and gentle but i end up feeling this is my fault for their life getting screwed up and if they harm themself..