Feeling lonely

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by onyxangel, Dec 1, 2008.

  1. onyxangel

    onyxangel Member

    yea, i have a boyfriend/fiance/ significant other. what ever you wish to call him. anyhow, we have been together for almost 5 1/2 years. lately i just feel idk, like he is distant. I know he isnt cheating. atleast not with a real person all he does is sit infront of his pc playing games. every now and again we fight or well ya know. but nothing is the same any more. It might be due to the fact that we had to evacuate from new orleans in september because well i am having issues with it and other things as i have posted before. idk I guess i just want to feel needed, wanted, appreciated,.......just wanna feel loved. I dont know what i am asking for here. rather it be help, advise, some one to tell me what to do how to fix myself so I wont be broken any more so he will pay attention to me, or if i am just venting.
  2. snowraven

    snowraven Well-Known Member

    Sounds like you need to sit down and have a calm conversation with him about how you are feeling. If you've been together for so long he must care about you. If you need to chat about it anytime pm me. Sometimes talking to someone completely outside the situation can help you to focus on the best way to deal with something. All the best.S.
  3. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    Talk to him about it. If you're really not getting what you need from him then it may be time to end the relationship and look for support in places and people who can offer it.
    As for feeling loved, that is something which you must first have for yourself. If you have love for yourself, then you won't have the need to seek it elsewhere, but only share it.
    As for how to love yourself. Fuck I don't know :laugh: that's why I'm here too. I would suggest going to a therapist. She is helping me. I also turn to God, but not everyone believes. You will have to find your way of doing that.

    Hope you can figure it all out. Keep posting. We're here for you.
  4. onyxangel

    onyxangel Member

    thanx alot guys, i am seeing a therapist. but have only had 2 sessions so i am still early own. i guess i need to stop self diagnosing and let the lady do her job for it to help me any. and as far as loving my self...i dont really know about that one as far back as i can remember that hasnt really been a part of my personality, maybe therapy can help that. who knows. any how thanx again
  5. fromthatshow

    fromthatshow Staff Alumni SF Supporter

    good luck :)