I became a member here not even an hour ago to find some advice about what I can do for my sister (whom I found with a knife twice tonight). After glancing at a couple of other posts, I thought I might be able to help (I hope). I am moderately successful with my life so far (I am 29), and each day is getting better. I am looking forward to being wealthy, happy, and constantly improving every day. I didn't get here by luck, nor was it easy. I've also had bad stuff happen (and plenty of it), but I dealt with it and I grew from it. From the few posts I saw, people here seem to be "hanging on", perhaps based on the idea that it will get better, but are currently leading an empty life. I'm here to tell every single one of you that you have the power to control your lives and bend destiny to your will. I've done it myself. If you think that your life is empty and has no purpose, you are wrong. Having an empty life is a PHENOMENAL OPPORTUNITY! You have the rare gift to start from scratch and do anything! If you don't know where to start, start with something the complete opposite of what you'd normally do. If you are looking for something interesting to get passionate about, try horse riding if you've never had a pet. If you've never been on a boat, go learn how to sail. You will eventually find things you like, and from those, there will be things you will love. You'll meet new people, and you can fill your life with amazing happiness. Start by doing ANYTHING! Change often, and keep trying new stuff. Design your life from scratch: make a one year plan right now - Divide your life into a few areas: health, finances, hobbies, work, family - List one thing you'd like to achieve in each of those areas this year (eg: in hobbies, I want to learn how to do oil painting). - Break each goal down into sub-goals (eg: for my goal, I need to learn how to draw a basic scene I want to paint) - Break each sub-goal into a list of tasks: for mine, I need to practice some sketching, learn how painters sketch out scenes, and buy some art supplies) - Take these task lists and schedule them on a calendar (I do it on my phone). Each day, I get something done towards my goals. - Review goals each few months. You might want to add goals or delete them. Life can be amazing. Every single person can have an amazing life. Yes, even you. You might feel there is every reason you can't, but you can. Do not give away your existence and the potential decades of joy you have left because of what has happened in the past. You can survive this. You can be the master of your own life, and make the troubles of the past worth it. Now, here's the important part: start right now. Don't even finish reading this post. Get a piece of paper and write on it "Make one year plan" and pin it up on your bedroom wall so you see it when you wake up. You now have something to look forward to tomorrow... You are designing a whole new life! You can look forward to days where you can't wait to get out of bed and be living the dream lifestyle you want. It can be anywhere, doing anything! You can start a baboon hospital in the Ugandan jungle, for all we know! You have no limits at all! Make sure you have something to look forward to each day. Finally, watch this video. It's a lecture from a guy (university professor) who's dying... not by choice, but from cancer. He is leaving behind his family, friends and many people who love him. He has taken precious last moments from the short time he has left to record a lecture on Oprah which might remind us why we should be living, and how to do it. It put a few things into perspective for me, and I hope it does for you too. http://youtube.com/watch?v=ZQtwEKlUutA Now, make sure you put up that piece of paper on your wall! Daniel. P.S.: I know it's not the best post (written at 3am while ensuring my sister doesn't do anymore stupid stuff tonight), but hopefully someone finds it helpful!