...that basically, and this does not apply to everyone here and this isn't having a go particularly... but that people play you so much just to make you feel bad or just generally to give a reaction really. well no more. three times more or less. some more than others. it is NOT happening anymore. its a cruel thing to say but i've run out of sympathy for the people who have fucked around with me. told me lies, tried to make me feel sorry, all of those things. okay some people i genuinely feel bad for. and would like to help...but others, when its either brought on themselves or made up for the sheer hell of it.....nah sorry! Nothing i can do and i really aint gonna try.