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Hi new to this. Have had a history of depression for many years but am at my lowest. Got married in May for the second time and she had left. Having hated my first wife they are now friends and I am being demonised by them to fell good about an aggressive divorce and now am being kept away from both sets of children. I don't have the strength left to fight the divorce and two custody battles let alone the money.
I'm self employed and feeling that after 20 years of being in the health care profession I just can't hear anybody else's problem.
Just don't know how to go on. People keep saying it will improve but the situation is deteriorating by the week along with my mental fortitude.

 

you need to have some professional help to get you through all of this. YOu should fight for your children Do not let anyone take them from you ok If you cannot fight then you get some help to do that

 

Thanks eclipse. I just feel so alone and broken by it. I have a lawyer but it's money I can't afford. And living on my own is really getting to me.

 

Hi Petal. I've got few friends and I've lost a few because of the turmoil I'm in. I've never been this bad with this amount of difficulty ahead. I'm unable to cope with going shopping now or leaving the house. I have collapsed and am hopeless. Just can't take another day.

 

It's tough for any parent to go through a custody battle but wow, two that's going to do a number on anybody. Take it one day at a time and think of your kids needing their father in their lives.

Is there mediation services you can use to avoid the lengthy court battles if the exes are willing to save money too?

Just focus on what is important and go from there, it won't last forever it will only be temporary.

 

Thanks for being there Petal. I tried to access help from the doctor and because of the system here it took to months to get antidepressants that I instinctively knew were not right for me. They caused a bad reaction. I need mirtazeoine but that will now take another 2 months to can hold off.
Non of my friends live nearby. I'm totally isolated.

 

Thanks. Better today and have managed to get to work but feeling as if I'm trying to hold back the tears. Worried about going back to my empty home. Worried about everything. Just wish my new wife could have given us another chance. It's just crazy that she has given up when we hit our first problem. I'm still full of guilt and wish I had played things differently. But it seems everything is lost and I still have a crazy hope that we could get things back together. Impossible as we have had no contact now for months and she's not responded to any of my emails. Just wish it could be different

 

Have bought her a Xmas present as it would be weird to buy for my daughter and step daughter and not her. You're right petal I deserve better but she deserved better from me. Have put in place some therapies and have just found out that I will see my older girls for the first time in 3 months on the weekend. I'm told its a one off by my first wife but hope the girls will want to see me again soon. It has given me great strength knowing I will see them but of course I don't know when I'll see them after that.

 

What was this first problem?

 

We started arguing. I became upset by a trivial matter that I just couldn't let go off and we argued most days of the summer. Looking back I was quite unstable at the time. My fault but wanting forgiveness and a second chance that aren't going to come. I miss her and the children so much.

 

Sinking again. Help