Flirting, Does it hurt?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends and Relationships' started by Jagroen, Feb 26, 2013.

  1. Jagroen

    Jagroen Well-Known Member

    How does everyone handle the dating/flirting thing...

    I keep thing everything that the girl says/does is a clue to something

    like today, a girl that i have been talking to lately invited me to a work "get-togther" and says the more the merrier

    but before that she was telling me how she just broke up with her bf over a really stupid comment and that she doesnt "f**k around"

    I was able to talk to her and tell her how i have been lately but not in depth, but i sorta feel see invited me out of self pity...

    i keep feeling that everyone follows the stupid sterotypes/guidelines and i want to go but she needs a bad boy / man
    i dont even know how to play this "dating" game but i want someone in my life...its been 5 almost 6 years....been doing this on my own...especially living on my own...

    but besides that, ive only had 1 really bad day...in about 2 weeks, thats awesome!
     
  2. Jagroen

    Jagroen Well-Known Member

    Well after last night, still back to square 1, and no help at all...
    I see that im really worthless...i wonder how much longer i will be go on for...
     
  3. guage

    guage Well-Known Member

    Dude not sure if this will help or not. I am by far not a social butterfly, now like very anti social I don't think I have a way with women but when im not down on myself myself find it works better to not try and make a relationship but find one. How I found that works is to not read anything into women, and if you find one attractive flirt with her, assess the immediate situation and try and make her laugh, or just feel good, if you subtlety complement or make her feel her beauty that is a way find if she can do the same for you. I know how guys think. Now about finding one that will be honest and treat you decently, that's a different story that i cant help with , sorry. Hope that helps. Oh i have found that women love a guy that can flirt, so really work on that . And they will pick up on it .
     
  4. crystalclear

    crystalclear Well-Known Member

    And yeah.... I'm with you on this one. I don't get flirting either. I'm a complete flirt idiot. How do even guys/girls do this?
    Okay, I 've read somewhere that ladies like it when guys make them laugh, they also like it when the guys asks them about themselves. (I don't get this)
    Moving on to my opinion, well , it's true that girls like funny guys, especially if the humor has some sense. Engage us in a conversation, and that means the two of you should be talking not just one. You can disagree with a lady but don't make her feel stupid. Be confident but not cocky/arrogant. And lastly be respectful :)

    I hope that helps... somehow :)
     
  5. meaningless-vessel

    meaningless-vessel Well-Known Member

    I think there was a misconception in the OP. A "get-together" regarding people from work is just that - work colleagues socialising together and maybe considering alcoholic beverages too. Often considered on a Friday for Mon-Fri office workers (as an example)

    Assuming that said person needs a "bad boy/man" is a little falsified too. Without having a general conversation about life/interests, how would you ever understand that the said person is actually after that kind of person?

    From what I have discovered, if you can make a woman laugh, that can be a good place to start. Another thing to consider when talking to someone is, if they can hold a decent level of conversation, there's a chance of something in common. Making her feel good about things is another pointer. You could just be the best listening ear with occasional bouts of constructive opinions, but I do agree with crystalclear - Disagree but don't make her feel stupid. Confidence not arrogance. And to earn respect, you have to show respect.