"Warning! Danger, Will Robinson!" This thread is about God. Consider yourself forewarned. Last week my Church had a lesson in forgiveness. The Bible teaches, "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." Matthew 6:14-15 (King James Version) When I was a teenager, I had a stepfather. Without going into all the gory details, let me just say that the minute I turned 18 I ran away from home and joined the Army. I hated (I know that is a very strong word.) him for a really long time. That hate took its toll on my mental health. Could be the reason I'm bipolar. I don't know. I have come to terms with it and accepted my teenage years as a fact of life I cannot change. I have since learned more about my stepfather's childhood and he had it worse than I did. I don't think that excuses the way he treated me. The catch is I didn't know whether I could forgive him. He had hurt me so badly in so many ways. Today I went to a new psychologist for the first time and she gave me the following advice. Forgiving does not mean having to love the person. Forgiveness means accepting that the person is a child of God, whom God loves. It means accepting that there may be reasons we don't understand that lead to their behavior. It implies Never believing that it was my fault.hmy: I had never thought about it that way before. It took such a load off of me that it bears further consideration. Any thoughts on the subject? I'd like to hear others' opinions.