Friday, February 14th - "Love"
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Good evening. I got a valentine box of chocolates from a friend (just a friend) and many texts with images of well wishes for a great Valentine's Day.
What are your plans for the day or evening?
Maybe watch a romantic chick flick. Normally I'd watch an action flick but being a girl and Valentine's Day...
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
I would say with self love you could weather no love from others. That being said, we all crave love from others. I have a buddy who doesn't understand why I'm not "on the hunt" for a romantic partner - I choose to wait until I feel good about it. Doesn't mean I don't want it - it means I'm ready to wait for someone.
What do you love in life? How do you express it? I love ice cream. Seriously. By eating it.
I also love being with people getting out and doing things. Creating things. Making things for others. Mostly because I love myself because I know I am loved by others.
What are your plans for the day or evening?
Maybe watch a romantic chick flick. Normally I'd watch an action flick but being a girl and Valentine's Day...
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
I would say with self love you could weather no love from others. That being said, we all crave love from others. I have a buddy who doesn't understand why I'm not "on the hunt" for a romantic partner - I choose to wait until I feel good about it. Doesn't mean I don't want it - it means I'm ready to wait for someone.
What do you love in life? How do you express it? I love ice cream. Seriously. By eating it.
I also love being with people getting out and doing things. Creating things. Making things for others. Mostly because I love myself because I know I am loved by others.
Hi there. No plans tonight. Yesterday went to a sip and paint with a valentine theme that was fun.
I think self-love helps you be able live each day but when others love you it gives me a purpose.
I love art, animals, my family, a close connection with another person. I express this by creating art when I can or taking an art class, spending time with my adult children which can be hard to schedule. Then just being a good friend and listener and going the extra mile sometimes.
I think self-love helps you be able live each day but when others love you it gives me a purpose.
I love art, animals, my family, a close connection with another person. I express this by creating art when I can or taking an art class, spending time with my adult children which can be hard to schedule. Then just being a good friend and listener and going the extra mile sometimes.
Thanks to @Auri for opening and for tagging me. 
Same as usual, to not care much about it at all. 
Oh, definitely self-love. All the love from others in the world couldn't truly reach me until i learned to love myself. I always just told myself i didn't deserve that love, that it was built on lies. It's only now i love myself that i can see in myself what others see in me, and appreciate them expressing their love.
I guess going by your chart, i'd say i experience agape, storge, philautia and philia. I've had eros before, but those relationships were built on quicksand, so it couldn't have been pragma. It's possible i have ludus now, but it's hard to say if it's playful love or just friends being playful.
So yeah, all that to say, i love my friends, i love my family, i love myself, and i love humanity, despite all its flaws and bad actors. I think i show that largely through trying to make the world a better place, in my own small way, especially for those close to me, by putting more good into the world than bad.
What are your plans for the day or evening?
Oh, definitely self-love. All the love from others in the world couldn't truly reach me until i learned to love myself. I always just told myself i didn't deserve that love, that it was built on lies. It's only now i love myself that i can see in myself what others see in me, and appreciate them expressing their love.
I guess going by your chart, i'd say i experience agape, storge, philautia and philia. I've had eros before, but those relationships were built on quicksand, so it couldn't have been pragma. It's possible i have ludus now, but it's hard to say if it's playful love or just friends being playful.
So yeah, all that to say, i love my friends, i love my family, i love myself, and i love humanity, despite all its flaws and bad actors. I think i show that largely through trying to make the world a better place, in my own small way, especially for those close to me, by putting more good into the world than bad.
What are your plans for the day or evening? I have to work for the rest of the day then go home and get some rest because I’m catching a flight to Chicago in the morning for a fun weekend trip.
What is more important? Self-love or love from others? I don’t think one can really be chosen over the other, but I have to mostly rely on self-love because I don’t have a lot of people.
What do you love in life? How do you express it? One thing I love most of all is my favorite teams- the Washington Capitals and Tottenham Hotspur. I support and watch them as much as I can, even when things are rough.
I have to work for the rest of the day then go home and get some rest because I’m catching a flight to Chicago in the morning for a fun weekend trip.What is more important? Self-love or love from others? I don’t think one can really be chosen over the other, but I have to mostly rely on self-love because I don’t have a lot of people.
What do you love in life? How do you express it? One thing I love most of all is my favorite teams- the Washington Capitals and Tottenham Hotspur. I support and watch them as much as I can, even when things are rough.
What are your plans for the day or evening?
No plans.
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
My most treasured things in life are solid friendships that have endured the years and all my bullshit.
Eros was nice when I was young, I was always chasing that high, but now in my mid 60s, it seems less important than solid friendships.
What do you love in life? How do you express it?
I love my friends and crochet or knit things for them.
No plans.
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
My most treasured things in life are solid friendships that have endured the years and all my bullshit.
Eros was nice when I was young, I was always chasing that high, but now in my mid 60s, it seems less important than solid friendships.
What do you love in life? How do you express it?
I love my friends and crochet or knit things for them.
Tysm for the tag @Auri and for posting this cool cafe, love it 
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1. Didn’t end up doing much yesterday overall cos my sleeping is a bit backwards again. Hoping to get it fixed by tomorrow or the day after though. My friend came over though and I gave him a friendly Valentine card, also a valentine (made them both be from me and my kitty lol) and also gave him a bag of some Vday chocolates. He liked it all a lot
2. I think both of those kinds of love are important, but ultimately self-love is the more important one imo. Without it, it doesn’t matter much how much others love us because we won’t truly be able to feel it, certainly not with any kind of lasting depth anyway.
3. I love lots of things in life, too many to list “all” of them here lol, but some of them are inspiring, vibrant, colorful and beautiful art, animals, nature, games, good movies and shows, ya, lotsa things
I have all those types of love in my life in some way, aside from eros. I think overall that I don’t care much about it anyway, so I am very glad and relieved to say that I have succeeded in deadening that level in me. It was very intense (painfully so) for a lot of years, but with there being nothing worth my time, it stayed as nothing at all.
Oh well, much worse things in the world than not having that, and I’m very grateful that I have all those other wonderful forms of love in my life, so it’s all good
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What are your plans for the day or evening?
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
What do you love in life? How do you express it?
Tell the people you care about that you do!
I care about SF and all of you. ♡
What is more important? Self-love or love from others?
What do you love in life? How do you express it?
Tell the people you care about that you do!
I care about SF and all of you. ♡
2. I think both of those kinds of love are important, but ultimately self-love is the more important one imo. Without it, it doesn’t matter much how much others love us because we won’t truly be able to feel it, certainly not with any kind of lasting depth anyway.
3. I love lots of things in life, too many to list “all” of them here lol, but some of them are inspiring, vibrant, colorful and beautiful art, animals, nature, games, good movies and shows, ya, lotsa things
I have all those types of love in my life in some way, aside from eros. I think overall that I don’t care much about it anyway, so I am very glad and relieved to say that I have succeeded in deadening that level in me. It was very intense (painfully so) for a lot of years, but with there being nothing worth my time, it stayed as nothing at all.
Oh well, much worse things in the world than not having that, and I’m very grateful that I have all those other wonderful forms of love in my life, so it’s all good
There is only one kind of love. However there may be many different names for it in different languages. There are different degrees of love. As we grow older love intensifies. At least for me. It has become a lot more important in my life.
You can't really love yourself and not love others also. The reverse is true also. There are many things we label as love, but are only contracts. You do for me and I will do for you is not love. Sexual activity is not love. But know that it could be love if the purpose is more than just pleasure.
Real love is given without any expectations. Love is the most personal thing you can experience. Love is the perfect gift, given to us by our Creator for us to share.
You can't really love yourself and not love others also. The reverse is true also. There are many things we label as love, but are only contracts. You do for me and I will do for you is not love. Sexual activity is not love. But know that it could be love if the purpose is more than just pleasure.
Real love is given without any expectations. Love is the most personal thing you can experience. Love is the perfect gift, given to us by our Creator for us to share.
There was nothing special from my end yesterday. I am iffy on the love bit with me not feeling strong emotions. I believe both in self love in that you have to do for yourself while at the same time hopefully you can spread a bit about and receive your share back in return. Both have their places and values both giving and taking. Many knowing me the closest in person will say my showing love is in they can rely on me in situations that can be life or death, sometimes both at the same time.
Couldn't agree more.I feel very similarly. Perhaps it's because I have some love from others and express my own a lot, but self-love has allowed me to see all that. I've certainly acquired a lot of self-respect, which is super important, but self-love is a little more difficult. I guess I have moments of more or less self-love.
I had a pretty awesome weekend (related to V-day or not). We went to our favourite restaurant on Friday, which is actually not very "special" for us. Hubby got me the coziest floof to wrap myself in, the softest bunny slippers, and some Disney blu-rays. I think it's my favourite gift ever. Saturday was very relaxing. Perhaps the first weekend day this year we had nothing planned.
And yesterday we went to a metal concert and of course, it was amazing.
I think it's my favourite gift ever. Saturday was very relaxing. Perhaps the first weekend day this year we had nothing planned.And yesterday we went to a metal concert and of course, it was amazing.
I feel very similarly. Perhaps it's because I have some love from others and express my own a lot, but self-love has allowed me to see all that. I've certainly acquired a lot of self-respect, which is super important, but self-love is a little more difficult. I guess I have moments of more or less self-love.
On the good days, it's really easy to measure how well you're growing into it. But i think on the bad days, the way you measure it is in how bad they are. I've made a point of noting that even when i'm criticising myself, there's also another, notable voice in my head now, preaching forgiveness and understanding, acknowledging that i make mistakes because i'm human. It shows growth even in moments where it feels like i'm backsliding, cos my worst is still better than my average used to be. And ironically, that gives me a little confidence boost, making it easier to get back to a good day.
I suppose ironically i'm saying that it's important to practice self-love in how you feel about failing to demonstrate self-love.
Oh, definitely. Learning self-love is a gradual process, it doesn't happen overnight. A lot of very deeply ingrained thought patterns you have to un-teach yourself, and a lot of new ones you have to teach yourself to replace them with. So there definitely are days where you'll succeed more or less than others, because consistent thoughts are so hard to maintain, especially in the face of your failings or other people's opinions.
On the good days, it's really easy to measure how well you're growing into it. But i think on the bad days, the way you measure it is in how bad they are. I've made a point of noting that even when i'm criticising myself, there's also another, notable voice in my head now, preaching forgiveness and understanding, acknowledging that i make mistakes because i'm human. It shows growth even in moments where it feels like i'm backsliding, cos my worst is still better than my average used to be. And ironically, that gives me a little confidence boost, making it easier to get back to a good day.
I suppose ironically i'm saying that it's important to practice self-love in how you feel about failing to demonstrate self-love.
On the good days, it's really easy to measure how well you're growing into it. But i think on the bad days, the way you measure it is in how bad they are. I've made a point of noting that even when i'm criticising myself, there's also another, notable voice in my head now, preaching forgiveness and understanding, acknowledging that i make mistakes because i'm human. It shows growth even in moments where it feels like i'm backsliding, cos my worst is still better than my average used to be. And ironically, that gives me a little confidence boost, making it easier to get back to a good day.
I suppose ironically i'm saying that it's important to practice self-love in how you feel about failing to demonstrate self-love.
Thank you for your helpful words and perspective on it, it’s very appreciated