Friend Hates Tickling... Has Nightmares... What should I say?

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Xenos, Jul 13, 2010.

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  1. Xenos

    Xenos Well-Known Member

    My friend was telling me that she was tickled by surprise from one of her guy friends as they were hanging out... how he wouldn't stop even though she asked a few times in a serious tone. She knew he was just trying to have fun and teasing her but..... it felt like one uncomfortable body invasion. He did stop after a while (not sure how long "a while" was but the way she said it was like... it went way too long than she wanted) and apologized later on. I believe the intent was harmless fun but he still felt pretty bad though, and the emotional scars still remain.

    Okay, my concern now is it's to the point my friend's having constant nightmares associating him with tickling and her body tenses up just thinking about it. She absolutely hates the feeling of being tickled and wants to dull the feeling. I have no idea how to comfort her 'cause now she's nervous around men and the experience is stressing her out. What could I say? Idk what to do =(
  2. Axiom

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    Maybe you could try to talk to her about why she doesn't like to be tickled. Or try to get her to associate the good fun part of being tickled by her friend instead of the "whatever" feeling(s) she is feeling from being tickled.
  3. greyroses

    greyroses Well-Known Member

    Its not your job to fix it anyway, unless she has asked you to.
  4. Xenos

    Xenos Well-Known Member

    I was the first she came to after all this happened.. She was kinda hoping I knew what to do in the situation... and I don't.
  5. aoeu

    aoeu Well-Known Member

    You might check for advice in the rape section; this is basically a violation of her person, and she's reacting much the same way as the rape victims I know.
  6. Avarice

    Avarice Well-Known Member

    It sounds to me like your friend would benefit from talking to a specialist about this. It's obviously something very personal and private for her, and I don't think that anything you could say to her will make the nightmares or fear go away (no offence meant to you or your capabilities at giving advice to your friends).
  7. Dave_N

    Dave_N Banned Member

    I guess that tickling her would be a bad idea?
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