friend or not

Discussion in 'I Have a Question...' started by Unregistered01, Jul 17, 2008.

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  1. i have this friend that i met my freshmen year of college(we're sophmores now) anyways freshmen year was great we hung out a lot and got to know a lot about each other.We did often fight a lot too,mainly because i have major trust issues and i often act like a jerk to "push her away",but we'd get mad at each other and talk it out.I remember she told me once that she wasn't going to leave me as a friend,but one time while having a fight she said we were going around in circles.So a few days later she told me she wanted space cuse all the conflict we were having,but i took it hard and hardly granted that request,when i didn't everything was fine but when i did,she was really harsh towards me.she would yell,slam the door in my face,and just mock me.Eventually this thing rode out into the end of the year.We were done with space but she was still acting weird,like on move out day her goodbye was really fakish kinda i don't care in away.And first few weeks of summer i'd call her and she'd call back and we'd talk like things were normal again but like june and stuff i'd call and she never calls me back-i message her on facebook and sometimes she responds and sometime she dosen't.she was nice to call me on my birthday and everything seemed fine.BUT i thought the fact that she never called back was because she was busy with work and hanging out with her fam.but i recently found out from another friend that she actually hungout with this girl from school and it kinda hurt my feelings cuse she wasn't busy enough to hangout with her BUT yet she was too busy to call me back.i do have to remember that our hometowns are 2 1/2 hrs. apart verses her being 45 min from the other girl.BUT STill i feel she could still call me,and i remember i did actually call her and she ignored my call u know the ring was cut short.that hurt my feelings too.Recently she told me that this upcomming school year we won't be hanging out as much as last year cuse she wants to focus on school,studentgoverment,and being availible to everyone-is this code for you push me too far and i don't want to be friends or something...i feel really hurt.
     
  2. gentlelady

    gentlelady Staff Alumni

    It sounds to me like she wants to be aquaintences but not friends. Sometimes that happens. Maybe you will actually become better friends if you aren't around each other as much. I can't say. I would not count on her to be around during the next term. She may feel your interests lie in different places and maybe she really does want to concentrate on the things she mentioned.
     
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