Friends?

Discussion in 'Mental Health Disorders' started by Nosmanic, Apr 29, 2007.

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  1. Nosmanic

    Nosmanic Active Member

    All my friends are "fair weather friends" their my friends when things are going well and when there not they disappear. :dry:
     
  2. whynot

    whynot Active Member

    Thats sort of what happened to me. I had some incredibly close friends in highschool, I was relatively popular etc. I had moved away for a few years and then moved back, and as coincidence would happen I found all my old friends when I was experiencing some of the worst moments in my life (health ailments, no housing, losing work etc) and they all turned on me. Actually, my best friend from HS was working at a place right across from the homeless shelter I was living in at the time and started going out of his way to avoid me after I had hung out with him a couple of times. I think his co-workers were only kind to me and asked me to visit to see him because they wanted to fuck with him (seeing some guy who probably looked with a worthless dying hick associate with this guy they knew. funny joke I'm sure)

    During my hard times before I had always thought of my friendships and time I had spent with these people but after running into them again I don't think there is anything as true friendship anymore. Even my family gave me the cold shoulder when I needed help the most. People are just a bunch of callous and superficial animals.
     
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  3. softee

    softee Well-Known Member

    "In prosperity our friends know us;
    In adversity we know our friends."

    So true. :(
     
  4. Sil

    Sil Well-Known Member

    It hurts to admit, but the good people seem to be a scarce resource...
    those "friends" of yours are obviously not worthy of you friendship.
    Give them a lesson on friendship
     
  5. theOtherGuy

    theOtherGuy Active Member

    Friends? People actually want to be friends with the depressed? I know I don't have any friends...
     
  6. Ignored

    Ignored Staff Alumni

    Unfortunately, it seems par for the course. The good thing is you know that the ones who hang around are the good ones, and worth keeping!
     
  7. Syd

    Syd Guest

    It's funny, I spent years helping a former friend through his depression and isolation, and was always there for him even when he left school and had no one. Years later, he managed to improve dramatically, and became very popular, forming his own group of friends who followed him loyally. I was never a blind follower though, just a friend who treated him equally.

    As I got older, some bad events had built up until I became depressed and suicidal. The best friend who I'd helped for so long decided to exploit my depression, used me for my money (which was spent on drugs) and basically treated me like crap (his followers did too). In the end he only cared about money, all that I'd done for him meant nothing. I was cheated and lied to by the group of childhood friends I'd trusted for so long. Betrayal hurts.
     
  8. Jackson

    Jackson Guest

    Fuck 'em. Nuke 'em.
     
  9. paranoidxe

    paranoidxe Well-Known Member

    Yup good friends are hard to come by these days..these days people are raised to only care about themselves..screw everyone else.
     
  10. theOtherGuy

    theOtherGuy Active Member

    I agree. Can't trust them. Who needs friends when you have us?
     
  11. yada

    yada Well-Known Member

    Wow, this is so true. Some years ago I moved for a job and got really busy, always travelling. Soon moved out of the country (same job) then returned, etc. During this time, I had been out of contact with most friends for quite some time. But 7 years later, I came back. I looked up some old friends and I could tell right away who the true friends are. Some picked up just where we left off last, and others bitched and whined about me not contacting them. It turned out to be a great way to filter out the true friends.

    From the good friends though, most still become scarce when they are faced with dealing with a depressed person (me). I'm still not sure if it's that they don't care or if they're unsure how to deal with the situation and decide to just stay out of it.
     
  12. Pneuma

    Pneuma Guest

    I have a friend that uses me. She has a wonderful habit around me. She will call me up and say "let me take you out to dinner" and like an idiot even though I know it's comming I'll say yes. In the car she'll suggest that we pay dutch. We get to the restaurant and we'll order our food and when the bill comes she'll look at me with puppy dog eyes and tell me she doesn't have enough money to pay for her food so won't I please pay for it and she'll pay "next time". As you might have guessed "next time" NEVER comes.

    I've decided to test her and see how much of a friend she really is. I'll keep you posted if you like.
     
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